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My Family or my Bf? I am worried that the choice I make will ruin my other relationship(s

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Question - (28 August 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 August 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I need someone else's opinion. My friends/family and fiance seem to be biased for obvious reasons. Here's my deal:

I am 19 and my fiance is 24. My fiance went into the Air Force after 1 year of dating. Our relationship was great and he had to join in order to pay back school.

He came back for Christmas and proposed to me. At the time and even before he left I was planning on transferring after 2 years to a college out where he is. He has been in for one year know, and I have one year of college under my belt. SO with one year to go, I'm getting very stressed.

So my two options as of right now are either I move out where he is, where there is a great school in the same town, or stay here and finish college at home.

The thing is, I don't know if I'm quite ready to move out and away from my friends and family. But at the same time I want to be with him.

No matter what I do I'm going to be unhappy in some way. Either I'm without him or I'm without my family. I'm just scared that the choice I make will ruin my other relationship(s). I'm just wondering if I can get an unbiased opinion or if someone has been in a similar situation.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2011):

Hey there. You could always move back home after youve finished college and hes finished Air force...? I mean you guys could always go back for chriatmas like your BF/fiance did? hope this helps :) im new to the site so im answering all the unanswered questions :)

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A male reader, UKLifeCoach United Kingdom +, writes (28 August 2011):

UKLifeCoach agony auntthis is the most important life desision you will ever make. this is growing up and starting the adult part of your life. your family have done thier job and raised you, your friends arnt quite where you are yet but one day they will eventually. just go with it. if he is in the forces you get free travel a few times a year and you get to experience exciting new things and places and raise a family in the forces. its a great stress free life bieng a wife of a forces guy.

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