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writes: my ex-bf of 2 months is getting back together with me. i don't know if he's sincere or is it just because i won't have sex with him if we don't have a relationship. or because he doesn't have a girl, and he needs a girl like me to hold. he's the one who dumped me in the first place, because he was too busy at the uni and i was demanding. now im slowly moving on but i still love him and dont want to end up regretting NOT taking him back. i dont want to waste time either, i could be moving on now. but then, maybe our love will be better the 2nd time around.but, theres A LOT of difference in how he wants us to be now. before, we used to be together everyday and text/talk each night. Now, he just wants to see me on his free time (TTH) and sometimes texts once or twice ONLY. also on weekends he prefers playing basketball with friends rather than spending time with me. we'll be together if its his free time and if its convenient, but he won't go out of his way to see me. im not his priority but he says its only now, in the future i will be. he wants us to get back together but doesn't want to exert much effort, nor give much time for me. should i take him back?
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (6 November 2006):
 This is soo unacceptable, dear. He's being a cad. Do not waste your time and work through your process of getting over him. You'll may feel miserable right now but at least you'll keep your dignity and pride intact. This guy sounds like a loser. You said it yourself and I quote,
"We'll be together if its his free time and if its convenient, but he won't go out of his way to see me. I'm not his priority but he says its only now"
I think therein lies your answer. It's all about him..he has no inkling of what respect, trust, giving and love is. Muster up the courage, do the time and get over him. In a few months time, you'll be glad you did. Don't let neediness to rule your common sense, hun. He's not offering you much, so why are you just ...settling. I sure hope you make the best decsion...good luck.
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reader, blackwind +, writes (6 November 2006):
 it can be unwise to spend all the time with someone people sometimes needs space to breath at the moment you both need free time he will come round in time. too much time with someone can cause arguements and can seriously damage a relationship i know iv been through it. gve him the space he wants and while he has space you get to have space to spend time with ya m8s. if you love if then you should beable to trust him so dont go askin too much about what he is doin otherwise hell think that you dont trust him enough. keep tryin
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