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writes:I lost my virginity to a guy i was dating nearly two years ago..he ended things quite soon after because he got back with his ex....so i never really got over him but carried on with things as normal.Completly out of the blue i got an email from him in july..asking how i was ect and apologised for how he acted.We emailed and txted for a month when i eventually asked what he wanted from this....he sent back an email reveling that he had a girlfriend who at the time was 7 months pregant with his baby..but he said they had a rocky relationship and didnt think it would last long after she gave birth. We spoke on the phone for the first time 2 weeks ago and have called or txted each other everyday since.We meet up yesterday..and straight away all the feelings i had previously had came rushing back....We went back to his and after sitting around talking and messing around for a while lay on the bed to watch a film....we ended up kissing and more.I stopped at one point and said that i coudnt go any futher because of his girlfriend. He said that we had already crossed the mark, but we stopped, he then said he needed to know that if he was going to leave his girlfriend he needed to know i could commit to a relationship....we then stoped and spoke and he said he felt really awkward and embrassed for almost begging....so we agreed to call it a day.We held hands in the car on the way home and kissed goodbye.I couldnt help later on feeling really guilty about the situation 1. Because he has a pregant girlfriend 2. Because i almost felt like i was leading him on.PLease help me i still have really strong feelings for him but dont know what to do?
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (24 November 2008):
 Hi,
I would most certainly be thinking of his pregnant girlfriend first and so should he think of it this way look what he is doing to this girl with you who's to say in 3/4 yrs time if he did leave her for you he won't do the same with you??
Guys like this are a hard bunch to change and if he has no real feelings for this present g/f even though she is pregnant with his child he does the proper thing and supports her and the baby.
I would leave well alone give them a chance to sort their act out before you get in on it!!
Your a distraction to him and whilst he has that he won't be able to give the other girl his undivided attention will he?
When the baby is born and if they make a go of it great if not then only then do you have anything to do with him but until then i would just remain friends and nothing else you are both disrespecting this pregnant girl and that is dispicable would you like that done to you? No probably so learn from this do not do unto others you would not like done to yourself your b/f is being very selfish and i just hope this girl has a easy time of it because if she gets wind of this before the birth i would not like to be in any of your shoes take care.
Ginalolabridga
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reader, cd206 +, writes (31 October 2007):
 I was in a similar situation (still am in a way) a while back. My first boyfriend got back in touch after a few years and said he'd like to meet. When we did meet the spark was definitely there but he also owned up to being engaged. I wouldn't act on our attraction because I couldn't get his fiancee out of my head no matter how much I wanted him. The thing is, it comes down to conscience. Can you live with yourself if you break his girlfriend and baby's hearts? If you can then go for it but make sure you're aware of the consequences. I feel a bit patronising answering this question, knowing that it's not actually this simple at all, but sometimes you just have to put someone you might not even know first just because deep down you know it's the right thing. Hope this helps.
CD
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