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writes:I have a situation going on currently at this time.. I started talking to my ex-fiance about about a month and a half ago, and everything was going fine we talked and went out a couple of times made out and everything seemed fine. Then all of a sudden she started to seem distant and i noticed it immediately she would not talk to me as regularly and it got worst, but then a few weeks ago we started talking again. During our conversation she mentioned she cannot get over the trust issues in our past and that she cannot make a decision, and she told me that this is the reason she is being so distant.. She Also told me she loved me and that only time will tell on where our relationship will go, i replied to her that it was fine i understand and that i am ok with her taking her time. But now the problem is that i have not heard from her in a week, and i am just wondering is this a sign that she made her decision and what exactly should i do? Should i just leave it alone and see if she calls or do i just leave her alone and move on with my life? or should i call her and ask her whats going on? I would really like to have good advice on how to handle this situation.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 August 2012):
 You said you would give her time, so do JUST that.
Since you two were at one point engaged to be married I would assume that you can call her in a week or two and see where she is at.
However, it really comes down to a few things. Do both of you want to try again? Or Do you both just want some sort of "closure" or clue as to how to move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2012): Well personally, I would just leave her to gather her head together, you did grant her time, and these things don't just happen over night. Her trust issues are her problem, and she must deal with them while she's single and with the help of professionals.
In the meantime, i would also have a think what i wanted out of life, rather than just ponder over what she wants and what her next move will be.
Surely again at some point you would like to settle down in a stable relationship with someone that knows what she wants, and not just keep going round in perhaps pointless circles.
Do you both actually want to give things another shot?
You both need to be clear on this.
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