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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of over a year stopped having sex with me the last four months of our relationship. Everything was perfect except for the part we weren't having sex. We still kissed still went on dates and we're still very affectionate towards each other. After my attempts of intiating sex he constantly turned me down or he claims he was tired. After four months of no sex I finally broke up with him. After three months I started to date again. Nothing serious just going to one or two dinners. My ex found this out and is livid. He has even tried to ruin my reputation with the potential guy I was seeing. I know I shouldn't care but I can't help to wonder if my ex still has feelings for me. And if he didn't want to lose me why didn't he try to help keep the relationship alive when I was with him?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (20 April 2015):
 I think you need to tell him to BACK off.
Explain that you MOVED on because you felt neglected and ignores sexually. And that he HAS no reason to interfere with your life any more.
I do wonder though - part from "trying" to initiate did you TALK to him? (apart from I'm too tired) DID you TELL him that you felt neglected? That you MISSED the sex? That you didn't understand why he wasn't sexually interested in you no more?
If not, take a note from that and if it happens again, HAVE a serious conversation. If you can HAVE sex with someone, you can TALK about sex (or lack thereof).
Are you two "Facebook" friends? Or any other social media? I mean HOW does he know who you went on dates with and how to contact them?
If you DO have some kind of contact still, Facebook, texts, phone calls - CUT it off. Tell him you are cutting the contact because it seems to bring neither of you anything positive by staying in touch.
He might have feelings for you, he might just be a spiteful guy. He might be in a bad place emotionally and angry that you "abandoned" him. It's impossible to know. But if you DO NOT nip this in the bud (confront him) he will make your life a misery and that just isn't fair.
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