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writes: my ex dumped me 3 months ago. now he's begging to get back with me eversince i started making new friends and moving on. he said he realized his mistake that life is not better without me. he regrets leaving me and says he's met no other woman better than me, and that he loves me. thing is, im moving on and happy being single, enjoying the freedom and making new friends. ive told him i dont want to get back with him yet, maybe in the future, but he wont accept. and what's worst is that he gets really mad when he sees me talking to my guy friends and one time when he found some friendly messages on my cel, he wrecked my cellphone and totally destroyed it! i still love him. what should i do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, I Dont Lie + ♥, writes (21 November 2006):
 Firstly, I think you should make him pay buy you a new phone. Secondly, I think youve made the right choice in leaving this nutjob. He has to realise that he cant always have what he wants, and when he does have what he wants, he should learn to appreciate it! And chances are, hes trying his hardest to get you back because he cant believe you've moved on without him, that he wasnt actually that significant in your life (despite the fact that you actually still love him, but he doesnt that). Basically, theres nothing much you can do but to just avoid him as much as possible. Im just worried he might get all psycho on you, but if you see signs of that happening, make sure you call the coppers or someone at least!!
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reader, marie78 +, writes (20 November 2006):
Ok, do you want to get back together with him? If so, then do it and save yourselves a lot of heartache. However, if you truly enjoy the single life, then be clear and be prepared for him to eventually stop calling you, because it will happen. So, decide what you want. Also, he shouldn't be going through your cell phone... he's definitely interested in you. If you want him back... sit him down and have a serious conversation about what went wrong in your relationship, and tell him that he can't dumb you and then beg for you back time and time again. That gets old. He can't play with your emotions that way. Good luck
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (20 November 2006):
 Your ex sounds dependent on you, and saying that he loves you because he has not found anyone he like better is not exactly the most inspiring thing I have ever heard. Ask him to tell you what he loves about you and see if it is about you or about him, that will tell you a lot.
Breaking your cell phone and getting mad is about control and domination and his immaturity and he does not want to control his emotions, all very bad relationship signs...do you really want a boyfriend with these qualities?
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reader, Catlova +, writes (20 November 2006):
You have your own decision to make about how you want to live your life. This guy may feel jealous about all the attention you have been giving other guys, but if you dumped him for a good reason, then just stay away from him and avoid him.
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