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*arasite
writes:ok well, i was with my ex for about a year and a half, he cheated on me,beat me, lied and does drugs, when i was with him i became depressed and never ate. but i fell in love with him and there wasn't nothing i wouldn't do for him. my family absolutley hates him. But i started to hate him because he was so secretive and aggressive so we broke up. But after about 2 weeks i'd call him and we'd get back together, then something would happen and i'd leave and not talk to him for a few weeks but i'd always call him again. The periods in which i didn't talk to him got longer, 3 weeks, 2 months, 3 months, but i'd still always call saying i miss him and i'd be so happy to see him again. Now just recently i got a new partner, been with him for about 3 weeks now he is a really sweet guy But i can't get my ex out of my head, i keep hearing from his friends that he misses me alot, and it's breaking my heart.. i think about him and i cry, alot. I miss him so much i know its wrong and i should hate him after what he has done. but my new partner just doesn't make me feel like he did, i know it's still early with my new partner but i just can't stop having feelngs for my ex, i have no idea what to do!!
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reader, parasite +, writes (18 June 2008):
parasite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou verymuch for your advice, it makes it alot easier knowing that some of you have been through the same and are seemingly quite happy now, i just hope i won't winthdraw into myself to much but i have taken onboard what you said and it's helping quite alot ^^
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reader, TrillianMcRed  +, writes (17 June 2008):
I have gone through the exact same thing.. I broke up with my ex because he was so aggressive and so much of a druggie and I still loved him for a long time.. It takes a while for the love to fade away.. Besides letting time heal, what you can do is talk to your partner about this.. I'm sure he'll understand.. I'm a tomboy, and the one thing that actually helped was hanging out with my girl friends.. Try that too.. We all fall out of love eventually.. Ooh and crying is okay as long as you're not upsetting your daily routines.. Hang in there it's all good..
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reader, people33 +, writes (17 June 2008):
you need time out of both relationships dont go back to your ex u will just get hurt enjoy beig single for a while and learn the knew you your self esteem will grow try not to think of the past think of the future
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): Give the new relationship a chance, if he treats you right then you'll gradually become more detached from your ex and realise what a bad person he was. I have an ex like that who I couldn't get over for 2 years, but then I met someone new who treated me the way I deserved to be treated. I went through a period of hating my ex, but now I feel quite indifferent, except in a way grateful to him for shaping me into the person I am today.
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