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writes:I'm going to court next friday regarding my daughter's father having contact with her. The thing is we had a messy break-up, we have been friends on and off for the last 6months, but 5weeks ago we got into a physical fight. We haven't seen or spoken snice.What I need is some advice about is how to deal with the sitution. I want to turn up to court show him i'm so over him, I know he will bring the girlfriend just to rub her in my face.What do I do, i don't wont him to see that i'm upset or bothered how can i show this.Please give me some suggestions... Reply to this Question |
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (13 November 2007):
 I think Richard said it all. All I have to offer is 'amen'.
Best wishes.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Concentrate on exactly what is best for your daughter. Have nothing else in mind other than that - her welfare - her protection - her future. If you - or he, are going there to play "one up manship" with each other - it will show - and be seen for what it is. Stop the war between you - it doesn't achieve anything. I know it's hard to do - but if one of you stops - the other will after a while.
If you do show you're upset and bothered - does it really matter? What does it mean? It shows you are upset about the situation - that you were in love - that you had a daughter together - but sadly the relationship has now ended. So I wouldn't even worry about it. If you set yourself the target of not getting upset - emotion might take over and you fail. Don't set the target - you won't fail it. Set the target to achieve the best for your daughter - and you will succeed.
On a practical note you could take a friend or relative for moral support. Wear something you feel good in. Take some tissues. Don't put on too much eye make up. Hope it goes OK. Good luck, Richard.
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