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writes:My ex and his gf are bullying me online and I don't know why. I do not talk to my ex at all and I have moved on. I got a message on IG of her telling me to stay away from him which is weird because I don't have any contact with him and I am living my own life. I barely get on FB and when I checked it I see she commented under a post of mine and said "Add me" I deleted it immediately and she commented under another post with a mugshot photo of me when I went to jail for a week YEARS ago and I'm just like wtf because you have to really search me on google to find that photo and she also left a long horrible message with it and I didn't read it but deleted it immediately and the photo to. Then my ex came to my profile (which I never knew he had a fb) and he reacted to a post of mine and another one. I did not respond and declined her message request on IG and made it private. I have locked down my FB also. I do not look at any of their page because that is torture to myself and I love myself enough not to do that. Crazy thing is we broke up 2 years ago and he was the one who wanted me gone so I left. She also contacted me another time before this and I believe he had to have told her my first and last name to be searching me up. She also went to a old FB page of me that I don't use and messaged a friend I have on there asking if he knew me and that friend messaged me with a screenshot of her message and asked if I knew her and I told him not to respond. Thats crazy to me and all this happened yesterday. My ex laughed at 2 posts of mine. I have completely locked down my facebook now so please dont say block because I did. If your in love why would you team up and bully the ex? She doesn't even know me and she says all kinds of mean things to me out of no where and I just don't get it. Its like he sends her to harass me and try to tear me apart!! He is the one who broke up with me 2 years ago and I LEFT!! Its like this girl hates me so much and we dont even know each other. I have done nothing at all to deserve this treatment and its like they both Want to pick me apart or something when i'm trying to live my life. Its just insane to me and I hope someone on here can shed some light because I have never experienced something like this in my life. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2019): Restraint order then lawyer up and sue for slander.Some people do not get it until you involve the law.
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reader, MSA +, writes (18 February 2019):
 This is crazy.. but there are measures you can take. 1. Report to Facebook and Instagram. 2. Delete any old or unused account. 3. Block them everywhere. 4. Set privacy where you review every comment/post before it shows on your profile. 5. On facebook, you can even go to the extent of not allowing anyone to comment on any of your posts. There are many ways to block them.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 February 2019):
 This has nothing to do with you, like in all cases of bullying. They have serious issues. Maybe they are, in fact, insane. Maybe they are on drugs. Who knows, but normal and healthy people do not do these things. So believe me, its not about you and they are probably doing it to others as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2019): The best thing you can do when people attack on social media is to ghost all the accounts. Submit complaints to Facebook and hold them accountable for allowing online abuse. They claimed they're protecting the rights of subscribers; so put them to task!!! Report abuse!
Close the old social media accounts; and just go dead air for a few months or so. Keep record of all the attacks and comments you've received thus far; and consult a lawyer on defamation of character laws in your state. If necessary, file a libel and slander suit. Hit them in the pocketbook, and they'll think twice about ganging-up on people. Don't delete evidence, you'll need it.
You need to also speak with an attorney about getting old arrest records expunged from your record. If you weren't charged or didn't serve time for a felony; you can have those old records, pictures, and files destroyed.
People behave as if they can't part with FB and social media for a little while. If you're addicted to it, you'll be vulnerable to people who enjoy exposing and publicizing your dirt.
You can live without social media until things cool-off. What you don't know can't hurt you! If you go looking, you'll find it. If they can't find you, they can't attack you online. If you need to catch-up with friends and family, call them. You don't need to post or publish every move you make; but if you think you have to, expect them to give their opinions.
I'd block all their mutual-friends and contacts. You don't need them anymore. Make some new friends. Don't consider anyone your friend who won't defend you, or delete garbage about you. If their fingers are too broken to push delete when they see hurtful comments or insults; you should remove them from your contacts. They're just enjoying the drama.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (16 February 2019):
 Oh sweetheart, did you not realize that, when he finished with you and told you to go, you were supposed to beg him to not finish things with you? You hurt his ego SOOOO much when you just accepted the situation and walked away with dignity. How dare you? Ha ha.
This "slight" has obviously been festering away inside his brain ever since and he is obviously telling his girlfriend what an evil person you were, how much you hurt him. While the relationship with his girlfriend was fresh and new, it took his mind off his "hurt" but now that things have got a bit boring and mundane, he is spicing things up a bit by bad mouthing you. He has probably told her he cannot commit to her because you hurt him so much that he cannot trust people again (or some slight variation of that), hence why she hates you so much because she isn't mature or intelligent enough to realize what is going on.
Hold your head high and carry on with your life. Let this said pair wallow in their hatred of you. You sound like you can rise above it.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 February 2019):
 You need to 1. contact Facebook and two heighten your FB security.
The old FB page you don't use... DELETE it, so they can't go fishing for drama there.
The reason she "hates" you is because HE has talked so much smack about you. These two are toxic people who get off on doing crap like this. So DO NOT respond or talk to them AT ALL. And BLOCK them from ALL access to ANY of your social media.
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