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writes:I have a really good friend and we've been really good friends for a couple of years now and we're really similar with loads in common. We're both bisexual, but she's the only one out of us who is 'out'. She doesn't exactly parade it around but if someone asked her she'd tell them without a second thought. I'm definitely more private, and I'm not even properly 'out' to her, even though I know that she knows it. I've kind of developed a crush on her over the last few months, but it's kind of crept up on me and I'm only just really realising it, and now I'm kind of lost and scared. I really value her as a friend. She's one of those people that makes life worth living. I don't want to get it to that unbearable crush stage. But I've also got an inkling that maybe possibly she likes me too and if that's a thing then I kind of don't want to not tell her but if we ever got together I'd have to come out to my family, (my parents wouldn't be bothered but mostly everybody else would) and I'm really confused and I don't want to lose her and I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2014): I'm someone that usually doesn't rush these things and believe it's better to take things slowly.... but YES I recognise that sometimes I need a little push, ya know, when things are just STUCK forever lol... In your case however, as it's at the stage where it hasn't developed into that intense, full blown crush, it's definitely time to put the feelers out. If flirting doesn't come so naturally to you, research some tips online. :) Invite her out somewhere casual, but in the evening- more of a "romantic, then just drop it, simply, wan2 go out? At this stage I'm sure you can move past this, IF she says no... Always be prepared. You're not in love with her and sounds like you guys are on a comfortable enough level for things to get back to Normal Good luck :) x
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reader, RevMick +, writes (14 May 2014):
 Hi,
If you both like each other, and it seems you do then go for it. I wouldn't be bothered what anyone else thinks. Your family would be OK with it (so that's the only people who should matter).
If you don't at least try a relationship, how would you feel if she met someone else?
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