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writes: Something weird has happened: I have had a huge crush on an incredibly good friend of mine for three years, we've kissed eachother so many times randomly out of passion, and have come close to doing stuff a few times but I'm shy so I always back out. we tell eachother everything and he recently confessed he has had his first bisexual experience with this guy we know over the weekend. Honestly, I find that a turn on, but he's seriously asked me (and the other guy) to consider me joining them and as much as that is a huge temptation for me...I'm not sure if I could do it. PLEASE HELP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2006): Don't do it. This maybe a test. If you do have a threesome, your crush could turn on you and decide your not the kind of girl he would like to hang out with or even have a relationship with. It maybe a turn on for you and him now, but it may be whole different story afterwards. How would you feel after this little experiment if your crush went from bi to gay? You would be crushed and you feel used. Are you looking for more with this guy? If so this isn't the way to go. He won't respect you when it is said and done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2006): dont do anything thing that you may later on regret. but then again there is that "what if" thing. i dont know. i think that its kind of gross having 2 men. tell him that your willing to go one on one with him but not on anyone else if your really interested in him. dont do it if you really afraid of losing him. if it doesnt feel right its problaby not right.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (8 May 2006):
 do not do anything that you do not want to do
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (8 May 2006):
 Everyone's private lives are their own. Some people feel comfortable to experiment with things like threesomes, others don't.
It doesn't make people wrong or right or boring or exciting, it just makes us different people with different likes and dislikes and turn ons.
I know girls who would say that you are lucky - what a sexy suggestion, I know other girls that would say "no way - not for me". No right or wrong.
What you need to do is work out how you feel about this? Does it make you scared or uncomfortable? Would you feel used or violated?
This is the most important thing - your feelings. If you think that you would be able to emotionally cope and it would be a fun, exciting thing to do - then consider it.
If on the other hand, it makes you scared, uncomfortable or upset, forget it.
Do what feels right and don't feel pressured just because you have a crush on this guy, though I know that can be tricky.
Don't do anything that could end up with you feeling sad or depressed or upset.
Also think about what you want from this man? Do you want a relationship? If so, perhaps a threesome is not the best way to start a relationship - it could give him the wrong idea about what you are after.
Think about what you want from him and then perhaps have a one on one chat with him about your feelings and what you want.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (8 May 2006):
 As a rule of thumb my moto is is "if in doubt say no"! You can't be that shy to even consider it!
Don't do anything you may live to regret. If your looking to have a relationship with this man, I don't think a threesomes a great way to start it, do you?
If you proceed with his request you could end up getting hurt, I'd think seriously before agreeing to what seems to be his sexual fantasy, you could fulfill it and end up being a friend with benefits......
Good luck!
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