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female
age
51-59,
*orothea
writes:How should I deal with my cousins behaviour? I am not quite sure what this means when someone does this but my cousin refuses to engage in serious conversation with me like he does with the other women in the family. He avoids serious topics altogether. If he does or says anything that annoys me and I try to tell him he absolutely refuses to engage with me or to argue at all but just ignores it. I drives me quite mad sometimes and I got angry once. When he saw me again he just said 'Have you recovered yet?' We are both adults in our early forties there isnt a huge age difference yet when he speaks to me it is a bit like an adult talking to a child. I wonder how I should handle this apparent lack of respect? Am I inadvertently causing this? Should I just ignore this person altogether? Thanks for any answers.
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 This guy is "family" not friend.If a stranger treated you like this, you'd probably have nothing to do with that person. So why are you worring about this cousin? There's no possible way anyone can like everyone in their family. There's just too many different personalities involved. There's no way you'll like everyone you meet and there's no way everyone you meet will like you. That's just life!Besides, you already know you'll never be able to get on his good side.I suggest you just ignore this jerk, and enjoy the company of those in your family you do like.Life's too short to waste on "assholes"!
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Start speaking to him like a child. If he starts getting annoyed by it and confronts you, just tell him "I'm speaking to you like a child because you are acting like a child"He sounds a bit stuck up and snobish in my opinion, maybe he needs to realise that his actions and behaviours are totally disrespectful. And it's always fun to play him at his own game. He'll soon realise...
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