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writes:Moderator note: I suspect your age is not what you claim. yes that is my real age people. it may not look like it but I am. sorry. then what can I do to make it better then?hello my name is as it shows at this time. I got a real problem here and I really could use the help and or support. I am 42 yrs. old and have married now for like 12 yrs. and my cousin is 29 going on 30. here now for awhile I have always had a major crush on my cousin since she was in school. well just recently here I found out she has felt the same way about me, we are so much alike, we love pretty much the same things in life. we both love are children we have. and we also live about 45 minutes from each other here in MN. and also I got a wife who I love 2 and it seems there not much compatabile nowadays and I dont know why and it is the opposite with my cousin. Im at the point you can say " I love her (my cousin)" then my wife. I mean I dont know what to do here! its killing me inside of me! now I know I've done my research already on marrying/dating cousins and of course I can't marrying my cousin here BUT I can date her if I want. see coming up now May 1st me and her are going out togehter with some other cousins of mine and just have fun but every time Im around her I get a way different feeling in me. what do I do here. Im in a ball of tears and she is the same way to and we dont want are families to know about us.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 I think your research may be a little off because it is not illegal to marry your cousin no matter how close in blood you are. e.g. first second third etc makes no difference it's all cool. But the issue I see here is your have become too comfortable in your relationship with your wife whilst your cousin seems cool and exciting. Don't be fooled lust and excitement it wears off pretty quickly. You need to try and spice up your marriage. Take your wife out, do some things together that you both enjoy e.g walks in the park, movies, dinner etc. You must have loved your wife a lot in the beginning to marry her so reconnect with her and find that again.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Leaving your wife for your cousin...? You really think its worth throwing away a 12 year marriage for? Have you explored the option of fixing things with your wife, counselling etc? This seems silly to me, your name would be absolute mud. But hey, do what you gotta do and I hope it works out for you, just think about the ramifications of this before you make any decision.
Best of luck
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