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My co worker hung up even though she was expecting a call from me.

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Question - (20 November 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 21 November 2016)
A female Turkey age 30-35, anonymous writes:

One of my co-workers, lets call her lady A, wanted another co-work's number, lets call her lady B, who works the same shift as me,.She wants me to ask lady B about a set light that she has.I have Lady's B number so Lady A gave me her number to call Lady B so I can get the information about the set light. Lady A told me to call her back that same night

In any event, I couldn't get hold of lady B so I called lady A 2 days later to give her heads up that I haven't forgotten about her--I'm still waiting for lady B to call me back. To my surprise, she hung up the phone as soon as I mentioned my name. I thought it was a mistake so immediately called back but it tuned out she promptly turned off her cell phone after hanging up on me.

I am mystified and offended why she just hung up on me like this as if I was some annoying telemarketer--especially since she was expecting a call from me.Should I bring it up if I see her?

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (21 November 2016):

Ciar agony auntThen either she's had technical difficulties, a minor personal emergency, or she's just weird.

Thanks for the update.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2016):

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Thank you guys for your insight. Just to clarify,I told lady A in person that there's a change I might not be able to get hold of Lady B so I couldn't guarantee that I would get back to her that same night.She said okay, even if she doesn't call me back to still call her so I can give her Lady B number .I didn't want to give Lady's B contact info to Lady A without her consent so I explain that to Lady A to which she understood.Also Lady A told me she is usllay home around the time I called her.Which was 10:30 pm.She goes to bed around midnight and gets up at 5:00 am for work, according to her

Having said that, Lady B finally called me back the following day and said it is okay to pass her contact info to Lady A .I didn't follow up anymore since I found Lady A's reaction to be puzzling.Nonetheless, It turned out that Lady A had also made the same request with 2 other co workers to get hold of Lady B for her..she also gave them her contact information as she did with me --and the other lady is suppose to call her back tonight...So I doubt it was that urgent.I found this out when I went to work today.I haven't seen Lady A since that incident. We work opposite weekends

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (20 November 2016):

Ciar agony auntI'm inclined to agree, though I'm leaning toward 'sensitive and emotional' as the more likely scenario.

What you should have done was leave a detailed message for Lady B which included the contact information for Lady A and the reason she wanted to get in touch. Then you could have contacted Lady A to advise her that her message and phone number had been passed on as requested. That would have been your role done and Lady A would have known you hadn't forgotten her or didn't care.

If Lady A is angry and wants to talk about it, you could say that this is what you should have done and acknowledge how she might have felt overlooked, but don't get caught up in treating this as an injury of monumental proportions. It was a minor mistake, nothing more. I think her reaction was a bit over the top, frankly. Maybe next time she wants to reach a co-worker she can leave a note at their workstation.

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (20 November 2016):

You never considered that her phone might have run out of battery or she was in an area with patchy reception? And that she subsequently forgot to call you back once she had full power/reception again?

Or maybe she's a very sensitive and emotional person who interpreted 2 days of radio silence from you as a snub. After all, the initial plan was for you to call her back that evening and you didn't. Perhaps the situation was more urgent than you realised and she's had to go to great lengths to sort out an alternative.

I personally think the first scenario (technical malfunction) is the most likely explanation so I don't think you should "challenge her on her behaviour". I would simply apologise for not having got back to her sooner and then ask if she still wants you to speak to Lady B or whether she's got the problem sorted.

If she acts all stroppy and huffy in response to that, you can assume its scenario B (and then challenge her behaviour if you wish)

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