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writes:Hi Everyone.Let me get you caught up with this first..:) When I was 12 I had this major crush on a TV star..like most 12 year olds,with Posters, dolls, Tee shirts...this show was an escape from my abusive parents. I would lose myself in it for as long as possible.Well..back then seeing this actor made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, like I was in love with him. Of course, I know that this is simply a fictional charecter, and not the real person what-so-ever.as time went by I moved on to "real men" lol.. But part of me always found this actor extremely attractive.But I recently purchased the show on DVD, and I find myself with these same mushy feelings all over again!I didn't think much of this, and I chalked it up to a "blast from the past" sort of thing..but now I've started dreaming about him and watching the show repeatedly over the course of the day...I find myself thinkiing about him most of the day also.This show was on so long ago, and I'm under no illusion of anything coming of this..but I just wanted to know if this was normal..What can I do to snap myself out of it? I want to be able to enjoy the show, but not if I walk around like a dreamy-eyed teenager all day!Thanks in advance!
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reader, honkifuluvnicole +, writes (22 December 2006):
 Dont even worry about it sweetie. As you can see, we have ALL been through it!! Mine was Uncle Jesse(John Stamos) from Full House!! And i still find him very very attractive!!
So dont worry, its just an infatuation. And you will find someone real, someone better than the TV show's hunk.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): Transference. This is what this is. He represents the unattainable and therefore also, symbolizes your parents...that you put all of yourself, hopes, dreams, wishes and lust onto something you KNOW and are AWARE that is improbable...you set yourself up for the biggest fall of them all.
Please seek out individual counselling to address your childhood so you don't have to fall into a dream world, escapism happens to us all but we should be extra cautious that we do not become obsessed and completely withdraw from reality.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEyeswideopen..I know..thats exactly what I mean...
I just can't seem to be able to stem these feeling tho..whenever I see him I feel like I've just jumped off a cliff...if you know what I mean..
But thats why I came here..how do I stop this? Do you think these feelings will stop over time?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 December 2006):
 Whether it's normal for a grown woman to be mooning over an actor is hard to say but it sure is a waste of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, but I would like to clarify something, if y'all don't mind..:)
I know crushes are ok in your teens..but I'm 26! and this crush I had has come back..all those mushy feelings..ya know..?
Sorry if I'm repetetive, I just wasn't sure if I was clear enough in my original post..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2006): Mine was Donny Osmond and I would like to be anonymous if you don't mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2006): We have all been there. Mine was Ian McShane in Wuthering Height, oh he was gorgeous. I just couldn't get him out of my mind. I thought i would meet him one day and who knows - RUBBISH!!!!
These little crushes are normal and part of growing up. Don't worry there will be a time when someone comes on the tv or cinema and you just don't go all cotton woolly. It is very normal.
Take care
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