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anonymous
writes:This started ages ago it was about 3 years ago but my brother who is 4 yrs older than me he is a nerd but he always spies on me getting changed and tries have sex with me i try to push him away but he is to strong for me. I scream and shout because he tries to do it when my parents are'nt here. He hasnt actually done anything to me but i hate being alone with him he tries to take of my clothes he makes me cry. He has done it to me before and i told mum but after 2 yrs he did it again!! You see i dont want him to turn out to be some kinda of pervert or rapist when he is older!! HELP ME!! Reply to this Question |
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reader, Kohjakza  +, writes (15 September 2007):
lack of sex leads to sexual deviance. He is a sick man, say something to someone who has authority and can do somethin about him. Protect yourself and come out on top friend, he is evil and delusiponal and obviously does not have a concept of what a healthy loving relationship is.
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reader, nichoole  +, writes (15 September 2007):
ok start by bloking the locks and shut the curtains pout camres in yor room tirn the big lite down and pout sexy clothes on put a night gown over it and call him in and tye him to a chear dont let him go what antel he calms dowen tirn the camrss on lok the dors after you let him get you tape it and show the cops
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reader, paddoo +, writes (9 September 2007):
hey girl....BE BRAVE!
U can jus let nyone try out wicked things on u..u R NOT a doll in store....Let ur parents know who their nerdy wierdy sonny really is....
Let ur voice be bit more RAISED whenever u speak to ur so called bro..Ny mischief watsoever, be strong to punish him for it..he deserves a nice treatment for it..Don keep taking chances hoping somebody might get to know bout it..Act now..n save urself..
Forget bout sparing him....CALL THE POLICE straightaway! Don lookback.. Consequences will favour ur good future.... :)
BE STRONG!!!!
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reader, birdynumnums + ♥, writes (9 September 2007):
 Tell your parents. Tell anyone within earshot. At this point, you should be protecting yourself. We can't help you. You have to help yourself. Use your voice, get brave and tell. Your brother can't get the help he needs until you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): Tell your parents, but, they may not believe you. I hate to say this, but they may drop straight into denial, because this truth is so hard to take.
If he rapes you, you will be sad and depressed for a long time... or worse, you may be driven to self-hate and suicide.
Your brother is becoming mentally ill and needs some help. Get him into some treatment before he really hurts someone and needs to be imprisoned. (In prison, he will probably be maimed or killed once they find out what his problem is.) You won't be able to do it, but adults can make it happen. He can be helped -- people, especially young people, can change and learn to deal with their problems.
This advice is very difficult to fathom, and it will be hard to take action. Maybe you can take your post, print it out, put your name on it, and slip it to the school nurse in an envelope.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): Yes, he is already a pervert & he has deep mental issues trying to touch his own sister. I think that you letting this happen is almost like an invitation to him to let him try & rape you one day, or worse. You need to tell your parents again, & if I were you I'd keep some mace or something near by me at all times.
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reader, Skeez + ♥, writes (8 September 2007):
 Talk to your parents. I understand why your parents will possibly not believe you but perhaps talking to your brother aswell. Do it when your parents are in the house. if they are in the kitchen and he is in his bedroom walk up knock on his door and tell him straight that if he so much as touches you again like that you will call the police. When you are alone in your house keep your mobile with you. and if you have windows keep them open so if he tries anything you can reach your phone nd threaten to call the police or indeed do call the police or you can scream out of your window so people will here. Or just stay out of the house when your alone with him. But yes he does need councelling. Hes a pervert. and by the fact you say he is a nerd. im guesing he stays on the computer a lot? so hes probably watched too much porn. You know theres so many different types. theres even ones of raping girls off the street. Its brainwashed him probably.
tell himt o get councelling and if he refuses to do so and carries on with trying to sexual abuse you. Call the police. I know its your brother and you dont wnat to upset the family, but this is a very very serious matter.
goodluck hun
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (8 September 2007):
 He's a pervert already, you need to tell someone or he's going to end up hurting you.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (8 September 2007):
Threaten to tell your parents, the school authorities and the cops. Follow through if he persists. It is the duty of your parents to protect you. Keep a detailed diary.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (8 September 2007):
 Im sorry but your brother allready IS a pervert. Because he is your brother doesnt make his actions ok in any way. ANY man who does those things to a woman needs to be stopped IMMEDIATLY.
You need to talk to your folks in a very serious way about this. You need to stand up for yourself and dont back down an inch. You cant let this go on!
You dont want to allow men to do this in the future and you dont want to live with the scars of not dealing with this sexual abuse. This IS sexual abuse by the way. He doesnt have to rape you to sexually abuse you.
Please take care of yourself and dont be afraid to stand up to this.
Let us know how you deal with this,
Duce
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reader, jo158 +, writes (8 September 2007):
hey dont fret there are plenty of people out there who will help you he cant do this to you its wrong try ringing child line if it gets to bad dont hesitate to get the policve involved i know it seems extream but use it as a last resort try your mum first then try childline then if it gets to bad call the police
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reader, spanna +, writes (8 September 2007):
 You really need to tell someone about this otherwise it could progress into something far worse. he could have child porn on his computer or anything he needs help befor ehe hurts someone and gets put it prison for it
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Your brother is sick. His behavior is unacceptable. You have got to tell your parents immediately! And if they are incapable of comprehending the severity of all this, then you need to talk to a teacher or counselor at school. There is absolutely NO REASON why you shouldn't feel safe in your own home. You need to speak up. And if you see that your parents are brushing this off and are not understanding how disturbing this is, then you HAVE GOT to tell someone at school. This is unacceptable. Speak up please. You may have to take things into your own hands but sometimes we all have to grow up before our time. That's life. It is your right to feel safe and not be sexually abused in your own home by ANYBODY. Your brother needs help and SHOULD NOT be allowed anywhere near you. I do believe people can change. But right now, he needs to be away from you and get help. And if your parents can't accept it and get him proper treatment in order to both help him AND protect their daughter from the trauma that you have endured and will continue to endure if he is around, then let a school official take it into their own hands. Good luck sweetheart.
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reader, mummyfox +, writes (8 September 2007):
aww hunni that sounds awful why dont you try speaking to your mum about this. it may help. you can not carry life on like this. i have been through something like this and i have not spoken about it till this day which i now regret. dont make the same mistake speak up you dont desreve this love u loads hunni.
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