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My brother keeps spying on me!

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Question - (3 March 2009) 13 Answers - (Newest, 10 March 2009)
A female United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:

I'm 16 and my brother is 12. He keeps spying on me, hoping to see me undressed. Should I invite him to look and get it out of his system, or should I continue to try to hide?

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom + , writes (10 March 2009):

AskEve agony auntTo the female anonymous reader. All of the questions and answsers need to be approved before they go through but at times when it's really busy sometimes some can slip through the net. If someone continually gives good advice and has been answsering for a few weeks then they are put on to "automatic approve" which means their answers no longer need to be watched but they can always go back onto manual approve at any time if their answsers fall away again.

~Eve~

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009):

AskEve- Very glad to see that the weird answer was removed. But; was this answer originally approved to appear on the page in the first place? Or do the answers just appear here automatically?

To the original poster- definately keep hiding from his spying. Talk to your parents about it and ask them for a lock on your door, perhaps? If this was a guy at school -or anywhere else, you would be aware that it is harrassment- and its making you feel uncomfortable in your own home!

Just because a boy or man wants to see you naked does NOT put any obligation on you to show him anything! And this boy- albeit your brother! -has not even the decency to be upfront about it- but sneaks around spying on you! The very last thing you should do is to humour his perversions! Tell your parents!

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom + , writes (8 March 2009):

AskEve agony auntThe last two anonymous answsers were absolutely spot on. The March 7th poster should never have given advice to let her see her naked and the answer has been removed.

~Eve~

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009):

Uh- The March 7 poster ?!! Whoever the poor girl who was persuaded to let a 12 year old boy perv on her naked- and probably being quite rude about it- would probably be scarred for life!

Why on earth would anyone suggest such a twisted answer to this request for advice??

Think this poster should not answer questions ever again!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009):

The March 7 poster is introducing you into major trouble. If you brought a friend over to do this scheme, her parents could press juvenile charges, and you could be labeled a sex offender.

Your brother is a normal 'curious' boy, and if I were you, I would threaten him to tell your parents, so he can learn self control. He has many years to see what a female looks like.

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A male reader, hdell United States +, writes (8 March 2009):

The anonymous reader who wrote on March 7 is way off base. If you want to teach your curious brother all about sex, there are plenty of instructive sites on the internet, plus plenty of pictures of naked girls to satisfy his curiosity.

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A female reader, we-are-nowhere  +, writes (7 March 2009):

we-are-nowhere agony aunti wont do that , i would talk to him about it and tell him it is perfectly normal to be interested in the female body and all but it is not appropriate to spy on people , tell him he can come to you to ask about whatever or ask your father ect and maybe introduce him to the amazing google !

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009):

Continue to hide! You shouldn't encourage his urge to look at you!

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A male reader, SQUISH United States +, writes (3 March 2009):

You are 16, he is 12. It would be totally wrong to expose yourself to him and it wouldn't end there. It is a product of his age. I think you should talk to him and let him know that you don't like what he is doing and want him to stop!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009):

Eventually it will leave his system on it's own.

This phase is quite normal for a male. He is beginning to see girls in a sexual manner and is curious about these new feelings and sensations.

So I would not encourage him nor reprimand him for it. Eventually he will find another girl that takes his fancy and it will take up his energy and attention and it won't ever come back to you.

He is just starting out on puberty, and many boys with older sisters are just trying to deal with these over-powering and exciting new feelings of attractions to girls. And the fact there is a developed female right in his own home, is just a matter of convenience for him at this point.

If he could see ANY developed girl with boobs naked, he would. It's probably not an un-healthy attraction to only you. It;s just you have boobs and in closer proximity to him then other girls your age.

So just try not to walk around naked and make sure you don't invite his attentions anymore then you already are. It would only embarrass and scar him for life if you talked to him about it. Trust me, no boy wants his elder sister 'having the talk' with him. Or any family member really.

Flynn 24

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A male reader, Kepi United Kingdom +, writes (3 March 2009):

Kepi agony auntI agree with Old Guy, if you let him see, it might start a process where he expects to see more, or worse still tells your parents you let him see you if you stop it....so just try to be a bit more careful when your getting changed

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A male reader, ArmyMedic United Kingdom +, writes (3 March 2009):

ArmyMedic agony auntI really think showing your little brother is a not good idea, have you seen how many guys post that they want to sleep with their sister on this site.

Seriously you need to tell him to STOP. It is your responsibility as an older sister to teach him respect for women!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009):

If he's only 12, it would likely be a while before he "got it out of his system." Like two or more years, until he got a girlfriend. Suit yourself, of course, but my guess is the more he sees, the more he'll want.

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