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My boyfriend's mother ---

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Question - (31 July 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, *ittersweetchicka writes:

Thank you for all advice.

I'm 33, my boyfriend is 34. Both my parents are living he has a mom and a drug dealer slash user bro. My boyfriends dad past away a year ago. My boyfriend n I live with my son who is 11, we have dated 3 yrs now. Before his dad past all was great, everyone had boundaries, and we probably did not realize his bro was that much of a lush.. After my bf dad died, which his bro was in prison and got out on Dec 15 this yr. Which he still lives off his mom steals from her n she gives him $$ no job except low life stuff. Now to the other problem, at first after his dad past on the 1day a week we have off she would txt all the time, through week once n blue moon, but day off constantly... ok her hubby of so many yrs passed, I get it, however she wld never txt through week maybe once blue moon plus we visit 1 to 2 times a week ... So, I tried maybe if I tell her were going on a date she will respect given us some space, erg wrong she constantly did it and it was worse, a year later still like that. I have approached my bf and all I hear is excuses.. okay we go away for a week n a cabin to get away from everyone n people guess who keeps txting us and sent a picture of my bf dad...6months after his dad passes his bro is free from prison back to drugs were getting caught in middle, drama n lies from his mom n bro, I'm always the bad guy because its a horrible situation, and I can see into it, now I lit my bf figure it out on his own, tired being the bad guy... So we plan ahead again to get away from everything, everyone. It starts out great, peace family time till my boyfriend goes oh I forgot to tell mom were at the cabin , I quickly say she probably didn't rember it was this week, he goes I have to tell her yep on our today stress free just our family vacation, was a a dream. Oh about two hrs after the okay have a great time in the 7pm range it followed txtings and of course not a picture of his dad but a blury foot n tv which was suppose to be his dads ghost. Our vacation away from all the stress and everyone and a constant txt of bs...

Of course this is our vacation, and I'm pissed and I'm the bad guy yet again because I see there is an issue. Funny all week no txt were on vacation guess what... I was pissed at her and my bf because I have constantly brought that to his attention, and if it was reversed he would be worse than I. Sat night we argued, not once did I heard, let's do this or that all I heard was she don't mean too. All the rest of our mini outing, I can't stop to think is this what it is always going to be three people in a relationship.Our time here is done this morning and no matter how I really tried to have fun in my mind was is it always going to be like this. At this point I need some good advice, what should I do .

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (1 August 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntTurn your phone off when you want privacy.

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