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female
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anonymous
writes:My Turkish Boyfriend Keeps Me A Secret - What Should I Do?We've been together for 2years now and he wont tell anybody about me. He says he had fights with his family over his ex and thats why he wont. He is 30years old.I think if he loves me he should stand up for me even if there would be a problem. Every time i bring this up he gets angry and says i should respect him. Is it respectful to me?im so hurt. He just yells and says i just want to hurt him. I love him but im so unhappy. How can i make him understand me?Also, when i ask about our future he just says he cant anything and isnt promising anything. The only thing he has promised me is that if he wont marry me then he wont marry anybody. yet he claims its highly unlikely and he doesnt seem to try to do anything about it. he just gets angry all the time i mention it. i have told him to leave me then but he wont. i have been so disappointed so many times in this so called relationship, but i love him. i have tried to leave him many times, but i havent succeeded. its fine until i mention these things, and when i do he says im a psycho and i want to make him feel bad. these things are always there and making me depressed.HOW HOW HOW CAN I GET IT INTO HIS HEAD, he doesnt seem to understand what he is d doing wrong at all? PLEASE HELP ME...:((
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reader, mzlarryluv  +, writes (10 August 2010):
Accept that he is not the right man for you. Move on. Wait for that man who will be so head over heels for you that he can't wait to introduce you to his parents.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): It has been 2 years and he is not telling anyone about you. It does not seem normal. I think he does not respect you and just uses you. Are you sure you are the only girlfriend he has? or does he have several girlfriends that he 'keeps in the dark'. Even if it is for the family reasons that he does not tell about you, still in 2 years he could have found a way to stand up to his family. This just illustrates that he has no serious intentions regarding you. Don't waist your time!
Leave him and don't look back. It may hurt as you love him, but you will thank yourself later.
Hope you'll find a man that deserves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): Get out girl and get out FAST!
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reader, Dr. Reality  +, writes (13 July 2010):
Run girl, run. I had a GF who was quiet bout me and it never worked because she was not proud of me for some reason. Same with your BF. Go find a new one.
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reader, CatherineA +, writes (11 July 2010):
Listen to me, sweetheart: you should not have to MAKE someone understand you, or "get something" into his head. No one can help you do that, because it cannot be done. HE has to do that, and if he loved you he would already be doing it. You already know the answer to this problem; you just don't want to face it. Listen to yourself: He hides his "relationship" to you. He refuses to discuss your future. He yells at you. He calls you a psycho. You're unhappy all the time. He's angry all the time. Despite all this, he accuses YOU of hurting HIM. Nothing about this is "fine."There is no "relationship" here -- at least not the kind you want. He does not love you, because a man does not treat a woman he loves this way. Walk away, because you can do better. Even being alone is better than this. Please trust me. You know it's true or you wouldn't have posted the question.God bless you.
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