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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for Four years and we live together, but he no longer talks to me about his feelings, worries etc anymore. When we first got together we would talk about anything and everything (We've both had quite turbulent up bringings and although neither of us had previously talked to anyone else about it we found it easy talking to each other)- I know my boyfriend is stressed with work, money and debt and has been for a while so I ask him about it and make it known that I'm here for him and he basically shuts down.I didnt realise how bad it was until yesterday when I was spring cleaning and found a receipt for GABA tablets (a natural supplement to help anxiety, stress, insomnia and other related issues) dated a year ago, which like with everything he buys online he got sent to his work but kept them there so obviously didnt want them at home incase I found them.I feel so sad that he hasnt felt he can talk to me about this and I dont know what to do now; do I talk to him about what I found? How do I help him bring down these walls his put up concerning his feelings and go back to how we were? Can a relationship truely work if someone feels this bad and wont talk to their partner?Thank you for any help.
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reader, yankit  +, writes (5 April 2011):
Guys DO NOT enjoy talking about their "feelings" as opposed to gals who love to chat on and on about how things make them "feel" Don't worry about it!
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reader, hotinlove  +, writes (5 April 2011):
I would gently ask about it. Let him know its ok to be stressed and down, but it makes it a lot easier when he could talk about it with you, maybe you could find ways to unwind together? Let him know, his stresses are your stresses too. Its been four years, if he can't talk about it with you, maybe he needs to seek the help of a professional? best of luck!
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