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writes:ok im new to the hole sex thing and i really want to hear how to so it by someone that has please my boy friend is really wanting me to do this and i keep telling him to wait so help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, bex28  +, writes (7 May 2009):
ok the first thing you need to realise is sex isnt about just one partner pleasing another its about both of you exploring and enjoying the intimate parts of each other. You say the you keep telling him to wait, is that because you dont feel ready? if so listen to your instinct. Sex should be fun and totally free from stress and pressure be that self imposed or from your partner. the bottom line is whether you have plenty of experience or none at all your boyfriend needs to understand that it is a two way street and that your needs and wants are just as important as his own. build things up slowly and see where it leads if sex feels like the natural next step then take it to that level, if you feel uneasy or nervous TELL HIM...if he truly respects you he will understand. and dont forget that most men actually prefer women who havent had lots of different sexual partners. hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): don't be so concerned with making him happy.
You're a novice so don't put yourself under unrealistic pressure and unrealistic expectations.
If he's decent, he won't care if it's a complete fizzer. Just do what you want to do. Don't let him force any situation that you don't want. And make sure it's all safe of course.
It amazes me how so many people focus on it so seriously. If you are in a truly loving relationship, go for it. If you know he's only in it for one thing, then tell him to get stuffed.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (7 May 2009):
 First you need to decide if you are really ready. If you think you are knowledgeable enough with birth control methods and know enough about the risks of S.T.D.'s, then you already know enough to get started.
To learn with someone who is green as grass can be quite a turn on in itself.
Just be sensitive to what he wants and do your best to make him happy.
Of course he, by the same token should do the same for you.
When a couple is mutually concerned with giving more than taking, then both win.
I have a link to a website that should help.
Please look it over carefully. It will give you more information on the subject than you can get through the scope of this site.
Lastly, don't let him pressure you into something you are not ready for. Only you can decide if you are ready and how far you are ready and willing to go. Doc
http://hubpages.com/hub/First-Time-Sex
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reader, niki20 +, writes (7 May 2009):
 the key to sex is rhythm. you can yo to sites like sex101.com and get info, you can sit on top of him so your clitoris grinds w/his pubic bone.
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