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My boyfriend wants me to go away "for a few days" over and over. Am I smothering him?

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Question - (28 July 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 29 July 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, *abyjoe14 writes:

Me and my boyfriend have been together for going on a year and 3 months. When it started he was the sweetest person and was always with me and very carming and we just fell in love we were perfect...but lately hes been acting funny, he wants me to go away for a few days and hes doing other things so i leave and then come back and then he wants me to leave agian and he doesnt ever really talk to me about our relationship anymore he doesnt seem to care about how i feel...He hasnt been saying he loves me very much or hugging me or doesnt really want to talk to me very much on the phone...I dont know but i think maybe i am smothering him a little to much...please help!

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A female reader, aphexinfinite United Kingdom +, writes (29 July 2008):

aphexinfinite agony auntno problem glad to of been some help xx aphex

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A female reader, babyjoe14 United States +, writes (29 July 2008):

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babyjoe14 agony auntThank You So Much for you're advice.

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (28 July 2008):

I agree, communication is best for the situation. If you're wondering if you're smothering him, maybe you should ask yourself a couple questions: Am I revolving my whole life around him? Do I work my schedule around him all the time to be with him and only him? Am I just dropping everything to be at his beck and call?

If you answered yes to these, I would say to make sure you are still having your own hobbies and spending time with your friends. Maybe he feels that you're just living and breathing for him so he's starting to pull away.

But as the others said, ask him. He is your boyfriend and you need to understand what his change in actions is the cause of.

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A male reader, steve2008* United Kingdom +, writes (28 July 2008):

I feel you have to sit down with your b/f and ask him why it is he wants you to leave for a few days at a time, see what answer he gives you and be understanding and unforcefull in your aproach. Be able to comune with one another and feel comfertable in doing so, let him know what is in your own mind and listen to what is in his. Ask him if he is happy when you are with him or happyer when you are not there. Be mature when speaking and allow each of you to have your say and listen with all ears, stay calm and find out the answers you are looking for. If for instance he does feel smothered by yourself then you have to be dignafied and accept his answer, perhaps give him that freedom he needs and do not bend! After how ever long it takes he will reallise how much he needs you and he will value yourself a whole lot more once he has seen what its like to be alone. Doing that will educate yous both and could even send your love together to a whole new level. Its a make or break situation but one that i feel is worth it and you are a winner whatever happens.

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A female reader, aphexinfinite United Kingdom +, writes (28 July 2008):

aphexinfinite agony auntit seems you and your partner needs a talk..no communication going on can leave us bewildered to think all sorts but the only way to hit the nail on the head is with a hammer..so in other words go speak to your partner see whats going on in side his head..you may very well be smothering him but you are not a mind reader may i remind you..also maybe hes not feeling the love like he once did or maybe hes not feeling the love from you..it could be a hundred different things but the only way to know is to ask him thats the only way you are going to get your answers so sit him down and have a nice chat..hope that helps aphexy xx good luck

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