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writes:I love my boyfriend very much but he has been doing a lot of hurtful things lately.This girl that he had a thing with before we dated (they spend a lot of time together now because she is in the process of breaking up with her bf) he has called her hot a couple times. Once he was hanging out with another friend and wanted to bring her along and he told the friend he was bringing her and the guy replied "who is that" and hes like "the really hot one" (i only know this cause he accidentally texted me) and that upset me quite a bit and he said he only said that cause thats the way his other friend knows her but he could have described her soo many other ways.and then we had plans and he ditched me to go over to her house an drink with her and her atm boyfriend. the first time was kind of a misunderstanding cause i made it sound like i was gonna sleep (we live together) but i wanted to stay up and talk but he made plans with her when he thought i was sleeping and wouldnt cancel. The second time i was supposed to find people to come over to our place and drink and i couldnt find anyone so he ditched and went over to her house ( i couldnt go along because we dont like each other although i told him i would be good if he let me come, i would only start a fight if she were to say something first.)And on this same night, we were driving home and when i found out he was ditching me i said "so you actually are going ?" and he's like "ya" and im like "well thats ditching me wiser options would be to either bring me along or stay home" i said this very calmly and then he yelled "well screw you!" which made me very mad.Am i over reacting ? does he still treat me well?
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reader, CleverClover7  +, writes (9 August 2011):
I'm kind of flabbergasted you even need to ask this question. You already know he doesn't treat you well or you wouldn't be posting here, hon. You know the right answer but you don't want to accept it. Let me tell you from experience...the quicker you accept it the better your life will become. You don't need him. You deserve someone that is going to devote himself to YOU. Good luck, sweety.
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reader, Frank418 +, writes (7 August 2011):
from a guys point of view he was probily a bigsofty and was heartbroken by this girl at one time. then tryed to move on but her memory lingerd in the back of his mind. i belive personaly that if he does get a chance he will go to his ex and you dont deserve to be yelled at. if anyone was in your shoes they would have wanted to go to see what was all the comotion about and at least give you a chance to meat the person. ide give him a nother chance but go with him and meat this person but if he becomes agressive it would be best to leave the drama. if youse do break part give him a chance to fix his anger issues and regain a healthy relationship. i hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): Girl, you gotta get out of that mess. Take your stuff and leave. You shouldn't have to deal with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): He said screw you..to YOU -- dump him. Really...these epeople don't change...why do you want a guy that obviously wants another girl?you deserve better. Put your foot down and leave.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (4 August 2011):
 It does sound like he has more of an interest in her than he should have. If he kept ditching me repeatedly for someone that he once cared for, I would leave. And that's what you should do.
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