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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 plus months and everything was so wonderful and amazing but recently, he told me he wasnt happy/depressed because he has family issuses going on at home and I wasnt allowed to see him because of my mom.One morning he told me he still loves me and cares about me but wanted time to himself and that hurt. my mom finally gave me permission to see him because i told her what was happening. i thought it was too late but that night he apologized about everything and he seemed happy again, so when I saw him he thought he was going to he happy, because he usually does get happy when he sees me, but two days later he told me that he was still depressed and seeing me didnt help anything so he wanted some time for himself/break until he got better.he told me he still likes me and cares for me and he promised that we would text each other a little bit each day and saying goodmorning and goodnight. He said he wants to help himself but he didnt ask for his stuff back that he gave me, but im a little worried about him and our relationship and i dont know what to do. i do give him a lot of time but im scared that he'll lose feelings for me even though he said he'll come back. I really dont know what to do because i want to be there for him but he doesnt want to see me right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2017): honestly. theres no helping him. my boyfriend is the same if not worse. if you try and help they will turn the blame onto you. you need to take a step back and re evaluate the relationship take a break allow him to sort himself out if you two are meant to be it will work out if not then ovbiulsly hes not the right one. if you keeo trying you will end up heading the same way deoression is a horrible thing as ive been through it but only the person with it can help themselves. take a break but let him know your there if he needa to talk.. hope it helps.xx
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (25 June 2017):
 We need to find happiness from within ourselves. He cannot expect YOU to make him happy if he is unhappy/depressed.
You have a caring nature so you are trying to make him feel better but this is dragging you down.
Give him the space he needs. If he comes back to you, he will hopefully be in a better place mentally and your relationship will be better. If he doesn't, it was never going to work and you have saved yourself heartache.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (25 June 2017):
 You can't help him. Walk away. He needs to sort himself out. At the moment you are just another ball he is trying to juggle. Don't waste your energy trying to fix him You can't. Sorry. You sound like a caring person whose heart is in the right place. He is growing up still and you had better let him get on with it. Find someone who you feel relaxed and happy with - not someone who is filled with angst and who will keep worry on your doorstep.
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