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writes:Sounds like a really stupid question, but here it is. How can I get my bf to stop tickling me? I really really hate it. He gets a great kick from it and how I react and squirm. And he does it practically daily.Most of the times, he will end up pinning me down, and of course, out of instinct, I try to fight back as best as I can to get him off. I have had bruises, a sprained hand, a sprained foot...all from my attempts to fight or kick him off and him trying to restrain my hands. Let me just clarify that it is not at all from him hitting or punching me etc.Tonight, I am again annoyed. I had a boob job done about 5mths ago, and because of how he was pressed against my chest tonight, one of my implant feels like it has slipped slightly on its side.I have absolutely no idea how to get him to stop. I have asked him nicely, I have shown him my injuries, I have gotten angry, I have sworn at him, I have tried to fight him off me - absolutely nothing works. Sometimes he will say he will stop but then after a few days he is back again. I am really so angry at this now because I spent so much money on these implants and now my left breast is wonky! I may need to go back to the surgeon now.My bf is 27. And we live together so it is not like I can just not see him. It is actually such a trivial problem, but it causes me such distress. He has younger brothers and does exactly the same to them. I have pointed out that I am a girl and he cant play in the same way (he has no sisters) But again, he never gets it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2015): Scream like hell in his ear don't let up keep screaming until he lets you go.Then leave his ass. You don't need this and its stupid to be with him. Hes a loser so lose him.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (13 October 2015):
This poster didn't have quite the same problem as you but similar (in that her husband kept doing something she detested because he thought it was funny.)
I'm not sure whether you should follow her example on how she dealt with the problem - but it worked for her. (And it did make me laugh too)
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-farts-on-me-and-thinks-its.html
Otherwise I totally second Aunty BimBim's advice
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2015): This idiot will not be a good dad for your children so you need to drop him and leave him. He has already caused you quite a few non accidental injuries and he thinks nothing of continuing with his thoughtless and controlling actions. Like a drunk driver he persists in his irresponsible behaviour knowing full well he has and will cause injury.I expect he encourages you to dive into shallow water, lean over balconies to the excess and generally risk pain and injury all in the name of good fun.He is just seeing how long he can keep up the image of a happy prankster but there is something rather sinister about someone who doesnt care what injuries he inflicts on others. He will do the same to his children.He will throw them high into the air to catch them just to hear you scream.He will encourage them to run down steep inclines at risk of breaking neck and limbs and he will behave like a general buffoon because he likes to. Something is missing here.It is called common sense and it is time for you to leave this idiot to injure himself.Your children will be taken from you at the first NAI so you have nothing to lose.
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (13 October 2015):
 I know how awful this kind of situation is. When I was a young child, I had older cousins who used to love to hold me down and tickle me till I cried. The difference is..they were KIDS.
Your boyfriend's action are alarming, to be honest. It isn't the least bit cute or funny what he is doing. I'm sorry hun, I can only imagine how you must feel when he does this. Do NOT tolerate this any more. AT ALL. Warn him that if it happens just one more time, you will leave. And then DO IT..don't just say you will...leave. If it does it again, then leave again..or leave for good. He is being disrespectful and also trying to control you in some weird freakish way.
And get yourself checked out ok? Right away...Leakage into your body from breast implants could make you very ill. Good luck hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2015): i think you might have to take him to civil court to pay for the damages he has done to you because this bloke is refusing to get the message and divorce him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2015): Sounds like he has a fetish for tickling amd doesnt take your demands as serious. Sit him down explain about your breast, say that it is damaging to your health and wven before that happened you really didn't like it or get off to it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (13 October 2015):
 My first on reading your questions was to tell you to knee him in the nuts .......... but there is no need to respond to aggression with aggression!
He is abusing you, and disrespecting you, and this is NOT a trivial thing, you have asked him not to do it, and yet he still does, and he pins you down and hurts you to a point of bruising, or straining your muscles.
So, so not trivial!
If you wont leave him (yet) then leave the house when he does this, just get up, get your purse and keys and walk out. No need to speak, just walk.
Go to a friends or a family member's house, return home the next morning.
As soon as he repeats his abusive behaviour walk out again, and again and again.
Either he will get the message and stop doing it, or you will get the message that he is not going to stop and if you have any sense of self preservation that will be the end of the relationship.
Either way, I wish you well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2015): He gets off on restraint and tormenting you. That is aggressive and abusive behavior, and he has injured you. See your surgeon immediately about the implant. It shouldn't move or shift. It could leak, or you could get internal scarring. It's still in the healing process.
It's time that you tell your boyfriend that if he doesn't stop when you ask him to, you will scream for help.
It's getting dangerous; and he's getting his sick pleasure from injuring you. Mean it when you say you'll call for help. He will only take you seriously when he sees consequences. You beg, plead, and struggle. That's the turn on.
I strongly suggest that you get away from him. You have become objectified, an over-sized sex-toy; and he enjoys your pleading. He enjoys over-powering you and relentlessly tickling you to near agony. I hate tickling, but when you're held down and can't getaway; it's something else.
That's very dangerous behavior!!! Most likely a prelude to something worse!
He's not respecting boundaries. He's placing your health at risk, and subjecting you to bodily injury. It has escalated beyond tickling.
It may be twisted foreplay for him; but it is assault on you. Stop means stop, and no means no!!!
Take this seriously and call for help when he tries it again. Set your phone on speed dial for the police. It's time for it to stop. He's sick! Better yet, get the hell away from that nut!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 October 2015):
 OK this one is simple. TELL him BEFORE he gets started if you that if he doesn't stop you are leaving the house, so when/if he starts get up and GO. Even if it's to a friend's house or your parents. And KEEP doing it.
What is wrong with him? I mean seriously? IT OS NOT trivial. If a stranger did this to you, you would call it assault. He might not be TRYING to harm you, but he IS harming you.
Tell him to GROW the F up and stop it, or you are done. Is he aware how sick you can get if your implant leaks?
Makes me want to wake him up at night by punching him in the nuts! (no don't do that but EXPLAIN to him that is the equivalent to what he is doing to you).
He needs to learn some SIMPLE boundaries. It's not hard for him to STOP this.
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