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writes:Im gay and I love my boyfriend so much, but sex is extremely painful! iv been with other guys before, and iv never had a problem, but his HOOHAA is too big for me to take in....... I love him way too much, but we cant not have a sex life? how do i solve this? what can i do?
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom  +, writes (2 July 2009):
You should tell him and maybe concider using a dildo, or strap on. This ya girl, peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): If you've tried anal but found it too painful, you weren't doing it right. Done properly, it should be only mildly painful and get easier every time.
You can have pretty exciting sex involving oral, mutual masturbation, fingering etc. etc. and even just caressing and kissing. But I understand, of course you want to feel his cock inside you (is 'Hoohaa' a South African term?)
It can be done. But you need to take it SLOW, and so does he. As much as you might be in a 'do me hard, fast, now' mood, it just can't work that way instantly, but with plenty of practise, time, patience and understanding, the sky's the limit!
Don't go there unless you're 200% on fire with lust, and when you do, use LOTS of lubricant. Be patient, don't rush, breathe in and out deeply, take your time and go SLOWLY in and out - whatever you do, DON'T let him just ram straight in. You can go faster as and when you feel more comfortable. The best position starting out is with him sitting on the bed while you gently lower yourself onto him. (If he's much bigger and stronger than you, you can take this to a standing position). If you feel any pain, stop, pull back a little, and adjust the angle.
Once he's inside you, don't stay still: move up and down on his cock. By now you'll likely be in heaven - he'll know from your noises and facial expressions. But you have to go at your own pace, it isn't as if he can just stick it in and pump away. TALK and let him know, whether with words or other verbal communication, whether it's going good. Let him know what's going on in your body, he needs to know if you're enjoying it and wanting more.
Hope this helps, have fun!
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