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writes:Okay I have a question...first of all I am "kinda" getting back together with my ex from 3 yrs ago. He is a military officer and going to Iraq in December and will be there until probably August. He said he is serious but doesn't want to make a commitment until after Iraq. He has put up with A LOT from my family and has continued with me as well as invited me to his family's down south for Thanksgiving before deployment. We weren't that careful during sex. But...Sunday I threw up 6 times (I never throw up, too, I've only gotten sick just once in 17 years), I am very dizzy, I have horrible headaches that Tylenol, Advil, or caffeine doesn't take care of, I had spotting 5 days after sex, swollen breasts, very fatigued, and I have to pee all of the time. Sunday night when he called to say goodnight I told him that I'd been throwing up and he sounded funny. I haven't heard from him for three days now, which has never happened before! I am supposed to take a blood test a week from tomorrow again and I just don't know WHAT to say if it is positive! We aren't even "officially" together yet and he seems freaked already just because I was throwing up--plus he is going to Iraq! I don't want to take his concentration away from his duties there! If I am then HOW on Earth would I tell him? He is stationed on the East Coast and I live in the Midwest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Until you kno for sure if you are pregnant, the worry and stress are prob playing havoc with your cycle...
The only thing you can do is, go take a test, see what the out come of that is. If its positive and you are pregnant, be honest and upfront with him. If you don't and he goes off to Iraq he may think you slept with some else got pregnant and are now blaming him!!! Guys minds like girls play funny mind games too at times!!!
Good luck with it all
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reader, rcn +, writes (31 October 2007):
 If you are, just be honest with him. He may freak at the beginning, but having a child is a blessing and after he faints, he'll realize that. Don't hide it from him, that's not a good thing to do. It will give him something additional to look forward to for his return.
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reader, ralph  +, writes (31 October 2007):
An awkward situation. I would let him know gently, but also state that it may not be a positive result - as you are awaiting results. There is no point in being in a relationship if you feel you are afraid to talk about something so important. We all appreciate honesty & he will also. ok?
Maybe he won't take it so well initially, but he'll be fine once the initial shock has passed. You shouldn't have to worry alone. Good luck & try not to worry. I've never seen a storm that hasn't passed.
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