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18-21,
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writes:My boyfriend is a way over my age which is normal for me, because I've also been attracted to older men, than my own age. My father died a few years ago, and it feels like my boyfriend is trying to be more my father figure.Of course, we do the normal couple stuff. But sometimes he won't allow me hang out with certain friends, because "they are trouble" or "they seem like they might rape you or something".Every guy friend I want to hang out with, my boyfriend already makes judgments that they'll "rape" me. I know he's trying to look out for me, but I'm not going to be able to learn anything, if he just makes my decisions for me.How should I go about this without making it into a argument? I've tried talking to him, but it only makes him really upset, and just be like "WHATEVER! I DON'T CARE! DO WHAT YOU WANT" and that's not the kind of response I want. Do I just do whatever I want, and if he gets mad.. then sod it?[p.s.my age on the top of the page is wrong, I can't figure out how to change it]
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reader, teresabrown  +, writes (11 March 2009):
i am going through the samething my boyfriend is more like my dad then he is my boyfriend and i just want a boyfriend not to dads
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reader, crazykit666  +, writes (2 March 2009):
I think the only way he will learn that you are he girlfriend and not his daughter is for you to stand on your own two feet! I think your boyfriend just likes to control and appears quite possessive of you = not a good thing! Make him realise that you don't have to live in each other's pockets and that there has to b a certain element of trust in the relaitonship! If he can't handle your status as a strong, individual female then it may be best to walk away.
At your age, there is nothing worse than living under somebody elses rule. You want to go out there and discover the world whilst you have the chance!! In three years when you finally realise that things haven't worked out, you'll regret having spent the pinnacle of your youth doing exactly what he'd said!
Good luck, let us know how it goes? x
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