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writes:A while back, I was getting close to this guy. He finally told me that he was falling for me, and I was really happy. I missed him when he wasn't around etc. Then someone else came along and asked me out, and I said yes. I've been with my boyfriend almost a month now, but I still find myself thinking about this other guy. My boyfriend is lovely, everything I should want, and if I could stop thinking about this other guy I would probably be happy. But I still see the first guy around town, we'll talk when we see each other, and part of me still wants to try to be with him. What do I do? I'm so confused, I don't want to hurt my boyfriend but feel I'm going to have to.I don't find myself missing my boyfriend or properly looking forward to spending time with him alone, I'm worried, this isn't how it should be. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (13 August 2009):
 to be honest it just seems like you got with this guy because the one you really wanted never actually asked you out officially.
you settled for Robin when you want Batman.
also you never seem to even really like your boyfriend here just see him as someone who filled a space until you realised it was too late.
perhaps you should talk to you boyfriend and explain how you feel and that you should stay as friends if he then rejects friendship you can at least say that the offer is there and try it with the guy you really want!!!!
hope this helps :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 So why did you go out with your boyfriend, if you were never that interested in him? It seems like you went out with him as a replacement, not because you were actually interested in him. A month into it should still be the honeymoon period, and if it's not, you've made a mistake. I suggest you leave your boyfriend alone and go back to the first guy, as it's not proper to drag someone's heart around while you're thinking of someone else.
Good luck.
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