A
female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:I am really worried about my boyfriend. We are both in college and he is studying an extremely difficult major w/a huge workload. He really wants to become a doctor and always has. Lately he is behaving out of character. He has always been easy to become overwhelmed, but now he is just so negative and angry about the amount of work and that no amount of time is enough to get it done. He has started to not get up for his morning classes. I push and shove, but he just goes back to sleep. This is not like him at all. Last night he just plain didn't do his assignments. He is talking about dropping out or deferring. He is a brilliant guy and this has always been his dream and still is, but the pressure is making him crazy. I don't know what to do. He just wants to be at my place all the time and we still have fun and do things on the weekend, but once the week starts back up, he freaks. He mutters and breaks his pencil and pounds the desk. I suggested he stay at his place more and maybe get together w/the others in his program to study, but he wants no part of the people at his school. I feel so bad, yet I am getting annoyed with him. I can't take the negativity, but I don't want to be insensitive. How can I help him? Reply to this Question |
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (31 October 2007):
 I would recommend he visiting a career counselor or an academic adviser. It may not be the answer to drop, but maybe lessen the load he's working. For me, studying law, the coursework can get overwhelming, but proper planning makes a big difference. Pacing instead of cramming. It also helps to keep the end result in mind all the time. We all have reasons and goals for the careers we pursue, but at times when it gets overwhelming we loose track of WHY we're doing something.
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