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female
age
30-35,
*aybaybay_x
writes:My boyfriend is being really distant and cold. We’ve been together 8 months. He is currently depressed because his ex hasn’t allowed him to see his child. This has been going on for 3 weeks. We never even spoke for the first week - he often shuts down when going through stuff but it’s affecting me now. I spoke to him about it and he now checks in but we barely talk anymore. He doesn’t ever call anymore and when he does text - if i respond he takes a day to respond. He’s hot and cold. I get through to him best in person... I’ve seen him the last two weekends the first because he set it up after a heart to heart and the secondbecause i needed somewhere to stay on short notice - both times he was himself for the most part but I can see he has his moments in his head. Last time I heard from him was two days ago, he said his childs mother cancelled the arrangement to meet up and sort it all out. He said. “I miss my daughter. I’m so pissed off babe. She cancelled. I’m so annoyed”... I replied but he never responded. When he’s himself he’s the most giving, kindest and even at his worse he still looks after me - i needed to pay for a few things and asked him if he could help during the week of silence, he sent it and said “no matter what if you are in need - i will always help you” and that is actually what got him to eventually open up to me. Our general relationship - Always video calls me, He includes me in everything, he always calls me beautiful, make sure I’m okay, I’m always involved in family functions, he never allows me to open a door or pay for anything lol - his family is like my own. I miss him and I miss us. I would just like to know how to handle things on my end..... Would popping over sometimes remedy this? I want to give him his space but I also would like to feel like I can call or text my boyfriend without feeling like I’m not supposed to .... what do I do ? :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2020): Hey there
I can understand how you are feeling if I was you I will try have a face to face with him and tell him how you feel etc and that you are hurting too ,
And that you want to be with him and to help him as well in this part of time
As you know that he loves his daughter to. Give him some space to take your words in and maybe be can tell you want he needs etc
Could it be that the baby mama has a problem with you and that’s way she doesn’t want her child around you you and him, if so you will have to talk to her to as she has to get to know you too etc
If she has a problem with you being there you guys may have to site on a table together and find a solution
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (13 July 2019):
I can understand your situation very well and it is not easy to deal with it right now.However your boyfriends behaviour towards you at the moment...it most unfair and out of order.On the other hand i do know he would be very unhappy and not being able to see his child.So would you consider having an indept with him about this matter.Tell him that you are aware how unhappy he is at not being able to see his child.Making him aware that he would have to take steps to sort this situation out with the childs mum or whatever other steps reqired.Because until this is sorted.....neither you or anyone else will not have a fair chance at having a relationship with him...at this stage he would be aware of this.Now until this is sorted I would give him all the ...space...he needs .Remember if a man wants to contact a woman he will...so let him decide what he wants.In the meantime live your life and enjoy...it take two in a relationship..not one .Kind regards.NORA B.
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