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female
age
16-17,
anonymous
writes:this is my first boyfriend and i have to admit...the circumstances are very annoying. his mother doesn't let him out of the house - EVER. he spends his weekends AT HOME watching TV or playing on the computer. and of course..like any 16 year old guy - he wants "something" from me. and that something is sex. i don't want to have sex yet - it seems too early for me. but he BEGS me in school..he thinks he can sneak around the bushes or underneath the staircase. and this is the foundation of our relationship - hiding in secluded places in school just to make-out or touch eachother (which he initiates..and i frown down upon).I don't want to continue doing this. I mean..I really like him. But I want a normal, healthy relationship. Whenever we hide around, I feel like we're limited..Like we're rushing. Especially him...he gets frustrated when our 7 minutes in heaven have expired and we have to rush to class. We've been going out for 3 months and we're pretty damn close. But we've NEVER gone out together on the weekends or ANYWHERE outside of school - EVER. And it upsets me..because this certainly ISN'T a healthy relationship. And kissing and stuff in school..I mean..who knows where his hands and mouth have been?!I'm not necessarily gesturing towards sex here...but just the fact that I can't see him too often. I don't feel comfortable running from corner to corner and getting caught by sexually-frustrated teachers. He could care less. As long as he gets some attention and pleasure, he's fine. His carelessness bothers me. I don't know WHAT to do about this - I REALLY like him...but I never see him. And I doubt I'll see more of him anytime soon. Please help.
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reader, red1982  +, writes (4 April 2008):
His mother has to let him out eventually. He's 16 for goodness sake. Tell him to stand up to his mum and take you out on a proper date.
If he can't stand up to her now - god help the woman he eventually marries!!!!
Tell him that you get embarrassed about doing 'private' stuff in school - certainly not the reputation you want from the teachers, and he wants to keep seeing you then you have to work out somewhere else that you can be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): I think you should really tell your boyfriend how you feel about it all. If he respects your feelings he will stop kissing you and stuff at school and try his best to come see you at weekends. You need to tell him how you feel!
Please keep us updated, and good luck!
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): tell him how you feel....if he doesnt change... leave him, you'll just get more frustrated!
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