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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontarr for the help we split up and i had a miscarge but not cuz of ma ex :\ x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Honey, do not get back together with him. I know you wouldn't want to make your child go through that, right? Being beat up by their father. There are places that will help you raise a child alone. No one should treat you like that. It doesn't matter that he's sorry. It will only get worse, even if it seems it's getting better. Good luck!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Doesn't matter if you're pregnant, you don't have to be with this abuser. If you stay with him, he will end up pushing you down so hard it can cause you to lose your baby. Protect you and your baby, get out of this relationship and tell your parents immediately, or an adult at your school. They will protect you..This guy will only cause you physical harm.
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reader, ecua_chick0411 +, writes (25 November 2010):
 nooo! Leave him! If he hit you when your not pregnet he will hit you when you are! Stay away from him talk to your parents about it and stay away from him!!!
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reader, ecua_chick0411 +, writes (25 November 2010):
He doesn't deserve your forgivness. Stay away from him!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 November 2010):
Then it's even more important you don't go back! What happens when he hits you and you're pregnant? He could kill your baby. What happens if he hurts the baby? Just stay away from him, get as much support as you can for you and your baby. But please don't bring up a baby with a violent man, or your baby will either end up hurt, or will become and abuser, or will be taken into care. You must not go back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the support but i carnt leave him now im pregnant :(
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reader, soon567 +, writes (23 November 2010):
Sweetie you're trying to justify his reaction. He will hurt you get it. Don't take this from him. Move on and find a real guy that know how to treat a girl. He will never be your protector, more of your abuser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER!! he abused you. he may want you back, he may buy you things, he may make you feel special, but too bad. do not get back together no matter what
Abby
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): STAY AWAY!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): Cut off all ties, and tell him that if he contacts you you'll tell your parents and take legal action. What he did is illegal, and he's going to repeat this on other women. You need to tell someone so they can address this with him and hopefully save him from beating up a girl in a few years...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): I know a lot of girls who have gone through these cyclical make up- break up relationships with abusive boyfriends. (Even one or two lovelorn men who stayed with their abusive Femmes).
Plug your ears when honeyed words start drawing you back.
We can not allow Anyone to feed off our human weakness for comfort and belonging and Home and dear, pure loooove in that way.
Get out from this situation as soon as you can, in any way you can.
It can be heartbreakingly difficult, but! Find someone who understands that Loving a person involves Always Respecting Their Trust, OR You're Better Off Alone.
!^%#*ACHTUNG!*#^!
DO NOT stay with any person you feel is mishandling your body. If they continue to disrespect your wishes- run run run out the window with all your digniosityundpride, my heartieeees
-tante Vic!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): Leave him well alone. You should have walked away and not pushed him, when he was being rude to you. You actually assaulted him in the first instance.
He sounds way too young and childish to have a girlfriend. Hes trying to settle his differences with you as if you were another schoolboy not a girlfriend. If he starts being a pest and bothering you or gets physical and hurts you. Go and report the injury to the school nurse and get it put on record. Then report him to your head of year. He needs to spend a little more time having rough houses with other boys and leave girls alone until hes mature enough to understand how to treat them. Hes acting like a 7 year old. Just avoid him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): Report him to your teacher or an adult you trust. NEVER put up with physical abuse or any other type of abuse for that matter.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 November 2010):
Don't accept his apology and report him right away to your guidance counselor or teacher. That is called PHYSICAL ABUSE. He is not sorry and he WILL hurt you again.
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reader, PurityChild +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Dear Annon, basically this is what's called an abusive relationship and needs to stop. If he will hit you once that means he will most definately hit you again. If you except him back into your life then it will give him the okay it again, and I know that is not okay with you. Dating violence can happen in many forms that you may not be aware of but if you continue in this relationship you dont know what dangerous things can conspire from it. Tell him that putting his hands on you was stupid and you are completely done with him after this....If you still find your self wanting to go back with him, then the abuse will most definately continue. You are only 14 and I couldn't even imagine being in a abusive relationship at your age but please please get out of this relationship and if not tell a trusted adult so that you can get help with this problem because it is most definately wrong for him to hit you...but it is even more wrong for you to go back, please take this into consideration before you decide on going back into a abusive realationship.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 November 2010):
Don't go back. This is abuse, and it will get worse. In fact, you should tell someone that he's abusing you this way.
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