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writes:My boyfriend of 10 months is very private about his emails and facebook, which is fine.... until I went on one of his friends facebook pages this morning and saw she had written "she would like to hop in the shower with a certain person". my boyfriend "liked" the status update which said it was written on Thursday at about 5pm. I looked in my emails and he had sent me one telling me about his day and mentioned he had "just showered", he sent this at about 5pm as well!! Do I confront him about it or will he think I'm stalking him by looking at his friends on facebook? Please help me, I'm feeling torn up inside about it
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (6 July 2010):
 My advice would be to sit down and talk to him. Ask to look at his messages with him present adn when he says no say "well what is there to hide". Either way push until you see the messages. If he has a problem with it or is annoyed or gets angry then hes not worth it cheating/flirting or not. Trust is the foundation for a relationship and from what I can see you dont trust him at all x
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reader, loraemoon +, writes (6 July 2010):
 well first ask yourself do you know that hes had any contact with this girl at all? has he given you any reason to doubt him over this girl? im pretty much the same as you id just to the first conclsion strait away, but think logic first please does she live local? if you feel strongly that he has done something wrong you have got to confront him especially as this is eating you up with hurt!im guessing maybe ur a little insecure to because hes very secretive and rightly so! if hes got nothing to hide then he doesent need to be secretive about things,just mention it to him and tell him your thoughts and just see what he says and how he reacts to it,but untill you know try and not let it affect you so much after all it just might be youve put 2 n 2 together and come up with 6 you never, but if it does turn out hes doing stuff with other girls behind your back get rid strait away no second chances as they will do it again and your live your life not trusting him or any move he makes good luck
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reader, gorgeousgussie  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 WHOA! steady on. I click like on a lot of things that are nothing to do with me whatsoever. However you seem to feel the need to check up on him so maybe youre aware that he is hiding something from you, even if it is just an online flirtation. In cases like tihs, the most important thing is not whether he is or isnt behaving himself, but how you react and behave yourself. It would be really good if in years to come you could look back on this situation and pat yourself on the back for dealing with it in a cool grown up manner, by maybe wondering is he really the right one for you to be getting worked up over, and keeping your otions open , I am guessing you're young and have the world at your feet, so step right in and enjoy , with or without this guy.
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