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Gemma1988
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 18months. And obviously, we have started to argue on occassion. The thing is, everytime we argue, he goes and tells his friends all the details (which I understand and doesn't bother me). His friends then send me really abusive messages. Really horrible, calling me all sorts. The latest one was a "tumour".I've tried everything. I've tried ignoring them, I've tried replying to them. I've talked to my boyfriend about it. But they just keep getting worse. They won't leave me alone.I can't take anymore. I'm so low and empty. I love my boyfriend so much, but I'm at the point now where I feel like the only way to stop the abuse is to leave him. I don't know what to do. Please help.
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reader, Gemma1988 +, writes (22 February 2007):
Gemma1988 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. It's really helpful. When I've spoken to my boyfriend before he has either given me a row for ignoring them or shrugged it off. I can tell that it is really difficult for him. He doesn't want to have to chose between them.
I spoke to him about this one again though, after i read your advice. He had shrugged it off again at first, saying that he was sorry and that he didn't think that they would text me, but after I spoke to him again, and went into detail about what had been said he said he would speak to them. That he was (a little) angry at them. I repect him for that. It must be hard for him.
Depending on the outcome of that, i will change my number. It's gone far enough.
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reader, here to help..x +, writes (21 February 2007):
 well this is a very sticky situationyou really should try to talk to your boyfriend again this is very serious matter its verbal abuse you should try changing your number but they may ask your boyfriend for the number.if this carrys on this may seem drastic but the police might be an option this is very serious.xgood luck have faith in your-self.x..x here to help x..
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reader, HardNut +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Hey,Change your number. I know it sounds extreme, but so do the texts you are getting. Give your boyfriend your number (obviously) and you tell him not to give it to his friends, if he gives your number to his friend(s) well, what does that say about his respect for you? Be firm. It's hard when you love someone but if he loved you would he let his friends verbally abuse you like this?What does your boyfriend say when you talk to him about it? I hope things work out for you.Feel free to private message me if you need someone to talk to.Take Care.
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