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writes:my bf always picks his brother over me. he says family come first but he takes it to the extreme! i wanted to sleep over at his house while his parents were in lanzarote and he wouldnt let me because his 17year old was there and would hear us at it he always puts his brother before me!its annoying me! Reply to this Question |
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (5 September 2007):
 well im sorry to say hes right. Family does come first. You gotta relise that he has family and they are very important as they are for life and stick together. No offence to your relationship but it cant be as long as theres has been or as strong.
You will be second to family unless you become apart of it.
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reader, bubbloo24  + ♥, writes (5 September 2007):
 Honey, had this been your family in the mix, wouldn't you feel the same?? Hes your boyfriend, not your husband, you arn't actually a family, are you?You have to realise, and I try not to sound harsh saying it - that family is for life, you don't choose who your family is and they'll always be your blood. A girlfriend is not for life, it's an important part or a guy's life, but you may not be together forever. As waterloo sunset has rightly said - try talkin to him, do not yell though, guys will yell back and you will not get anywhere. Well, saying that, if you yell at a girl, she'd probably yell back too. Just stay cool and say " I feel that.." and "I'm worried that.." Rather that " You are..." because he can't judge your feelings but he can judge your accusations.Take care lovely xx
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reader, stawberry01 +, writes (5 September 2007):
 hi
Family should come first but it seems that he his just pushing you away have you tried to talk to him about the way you feel he should think about the why you feel more often not just him and his brother.
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (5 September 2007):
 He is right. His brother does come before you. IF you were married then his allegiance would be to you first and your household before his father's family. Do they have a very tight relationship? Maybe he doesnt want to be a bad example to his younger brother. Ask him why all this is and know for sure. Just know though that men who tend to put their family first will surely do the same in his own household.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): He has a point. Do you really want his brother to hear everything you do. Not nice. Have a chat with him and let him know that you think that he puts his brother before you, but you are cool about not staying over. If he see that you are not bothered about the staying over then i can guarantee that in the future he will make sure that his brother is out of the way and you are first on the list. Stop whinning and running after him. Just be cool and calm, that will puzzle him and get you loads of respect.
take care
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