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writes: Why does my boyfriend not have sex with me as much as we used to? How do I get him to love me like he used to? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2005): Hey Sash,
Love can be shown and expressed in so many ways. It doesn't have to be through sex. I see where you are coming from, the beginning of EVERY relationship is exciting,new and experiemental. As you get to know each other you become emotinally intimate, you become connected with your partner and then you become comfortable.
When you become comfortable, you settle into a routine very different to the spontaneous exciting relationship in the premature stage. Your boyfriend is showing you love not through sex now as his heart is more involved in the internal you,the feeling is much deeper than before. He is probably showing his love through other ways such as, his stare, his compliments towards you, picking you up and dropping you off,the hugs,the kisses,Thursday night shopping etc. You must not forget to look at the other side of your boyfriends feelings. Since you haven't stated much in your question, you need to ask yourself "is this guy treating me differently alltogether or is it just the sexual part of it?. If he is still the same you may suggest to do something romantic for him or even just for a walk. Your boy may have some personal problems at the moment such as work,family and friends, try and ask him.
If all else fails, then babe i suggest you tell him how you feel. Some people like sex more than others....i know i do and my other half would prefer to watch a movie and cuddle up to me which i find boring, but like i said everyone is different and everyone has their own needs and desires to be fullfilled.
Just don't take it too personal about the sex thing, if your boyfriend loves you and reassures you then you have nothing to worry about but if you have noticed he has changed all over then try and suss his moves or to make things easier just ask.
Good Luck
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