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writes:Hello,I'm in a long distance relationship and i just received a photo.My boyfriend doesn't look anything like he described, its not that he doesn't look how he claimed to look, its that he lied about it I'm concerned.If he could lie about that could he be lying about anything else?Or should i let this go?
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reader, JTalbott  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 Boyfriend??? I'm with Natasia on this one, it sounds a little too soon.
If your school or community health center has a counseling service, why not give them a quick visit? Talking it though with someone may help you work though some of the pressures in your life that are motivating your behavior.
Really, it's what they are there for. Hugz
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Natasia loads of people go out together thesedays ebfore they meet up...
and to the girl who asked the question, i think your bf might have some confidence issues bout his looks.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (18 May 2008):
How can he be your boyfriend if you've never even met him???????
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): I think everyone perceives themselves to look differently then they are. His description might be more ego then reality. But don't we all think highly of ourselves? If we didn't, then others would be able to take advantage of us, right?
He didn't lie, it is how he feels about himself.
Twisting what others say isn't good for a relationship. If you love him, you need to accept it and move on, don't nitpick everything he says or does, relationships should be based in uplifting not tearing down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): No dont let this go, as you have said, if he could lie about that then what next. Kick the little liar to the kerb and meet one away from the internet and in the flesh and blood.
take care
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Thats the thing about the internet, you can pretend to be anyone. Its so easy for people to steal other peoples pictures or make up whole personas for themselves which are nothing but fantasy.
Its pretty unlikely that he lied about his pictures and told you the gospel truth about everything else. He has probably lied about who he is as well as how he looks. You obviously havent met him yet and with it being a long distance relationship i'd need to question whether its worth the hassle if you dont feel you can trust him. Long distance relationships are difficult, and they are impossible if there is no trust.
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