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writes:I think this is a question that gets asked again and again, but I'll go for it anyway. I am in a very happy 4-month-old relationship, and we get along great and share lots of interests and a sense of humor etc etc. I hang out and go out with his friends a lot; they are mostly female, so I get along with them great. My friends don't go out as frequently, but of course I love hanging out with them when we get a chance. The think that bothers me is that he never wants to come out with my group. He had once or twice in the beginning, and now I'm wondering if I did a bad job of including him or for some reason he doesn't like them. I know one bar we frequent he really doesn't like, so I understand that, but he will always say no at the last minute if we go someplace else. I think of these girls as being pretty similar to myself (minus a couple things) so I feel like if you like me you should like them. Is this something that really doesn't matter in the long run, or something that reflects back on me? Reply to this Question
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reader, SpiritStones  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 I guess only you can answer if this is something that will matter in the long run or not. I am interested to know what he says when you ask him if he likes your friends. Personally I think it is great to just allow each other to be free. Having your own friends is better than sharing all your friends. It is also a new relationship and in time he may join in more. Of course he is going to like hanging out with his own friends more. Ask him if he would prefer for you not to invite him, ask him, communicate your worries. Also, your friends may be similar to you, but they are not you. My friends are like me in a friendship way, but in a relationship we would all be completely different.Talk to him, communication is the key to everything, and if he says all is fine and he likes them, but prefers to not go, then go out with your friends alone, knowing that you can still have fun and you will also have things to talk to him about.Good Luck.
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