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My boyfriend cums too early, help?

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Question - (21 July 2009) 10 Answers - (Newest, 16 August 2009)
A female age 22-25, *nfinishedSymphony writes:

Ok so my boyfriend can't have sex with me for over 5 minutes without orgasming.

We do have amazing sex (during that 5 minute period) don't get me wrong, its just its not exactly a very long time for me.

I don't know what to do. I know for a fact I can't bring it up with him, its quite a sensitive matter. I know if i was in his position i'd be rather hurt and offended if my girlfriend was to mention it.

Is there anything we could do in bed to prolong the amount of time that we have sex? Take breaks? However, I doubt that would be the best option for us.

Thankyou for reading,

Lindsay

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009):

squeezing i dont think helps make it last longer, it just stops the cum. but maybe once hes stopped ejaculating you can blow him or something to that effect and when he starts again he will last longer

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

I had this problem when I was younger. One handy trick is to try to think of something else - your boyfriend could try going through multiplication tables or lists of prime ministers or kings in his head. Of course, now I'm older I have the opposite problem and it takes me ages to cum, so now my wife has a chance to get bored rather than frustrated.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

When I was with my first boyfriend, he didn't even last 5 minutes, only one second, as soon as he penetrated me he came right away, he didn't even do anything yet. He gave me oral sex after that but boy I was frustrated.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

5 minutes of straight sex? That's actually quite a lot (to me anyways). My boyfriend and I have sex for an hour usually, but that includes the foreplay, and during the sex when he starts to get close he'll pull out and take a quick break (usually to do oral or something on me) and then we get back into it. He can normally only last like a minute of just out and out full on sex.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

He could masturbate before sexual intercourse, if you are real tight he might cum too soon too. He can concentrate not to think about cumming, just enjoy it, if it gets so intense he can relax/pause and kiss you instead while he's still inside yo. Do a lot of foreplay then penetrate it again. He should last longer, try to have sex every day, after a while he will last for a long time 30 minutes or 1 hour or more. Tell him to exercise regulary, if he's too fat he may not last long and don't drink too much beer.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

If you don't want to say anything, you could say you want to give him a blowjob, then have sex as soon as he's ready after that and he should last a lot longer. I'm sure he won't be complaining too!

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A female reader, UnfinishedSymphony  +, writes (22 July 2009):

UnfinishedSymphony is verified as being by the original poster of the question

UnfinishedSymphony agony auntThankyou :)

Youve all helped!

I guess we do spend too much time on foreplay and rush into face-paced forcefull sex.

Maybe I should take things more slowly with him...take breaks...and get him to stimulate me :)

Again, thankyou

x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

Unless you mention it to him he'll think he's doing a fantastic job. Be as subtle as you like but you need to say something about it or it'll just annoy you all the more as time goes on.

It sounds like you need some foreplay to get you all fired up, and then the last 5 minutes should be just about mind-blowing.

About 30 - 60 minutes after the first session, try and go for another. He should last longer the second time.

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A female reader, TheAgonyAunt United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2009):

TheAgonyAunt agony auntI have this problem with my boyfriend too.

Try not to have too much foreplay beforehand, you could also try 'delay' condoms? They're supposed to delay the guy from orgasming. Also you could get him to stop for a few minutes when hes close to orgasming and get him to stimulate you before continuing.

Hope this helps

x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009):

My hub found that if he or I squeeze(s) the very tip of his penis right before he cums, it lasts longer. You could do this as many times as you feel neccesary i believe. Just ask him to alarm you right before he is about to cum and tell him to pull out so that you can try something and tell him you just wanted it to feel better for him and last longer so that he could feel good longer.

~Sy.

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