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writes:So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we're still not having sex but we do fool around the problem is my boyfriend can not get hard when we're fooling around. I've gone down on him and given him a hand job and he'll even try to get himself off but all he'll say is, "it's not going to happen." I don't know what else to do to help him out. Anyone ever have this problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): You should ask him why he thinks he is having a problem getting hard. Ask him if there is anything special you can do that he likes(like dress up or say certain things). If that fails, there is always viagra. Some guys just suffer from ED. There is no shame in it, and make sure you let him know this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): Well, my boyfriend and I have decided to abstain from sex until we're married so it's been pretty recent that we've even started fooling around. Thanks for the input though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2012): Perhaps he is so anxious and trying so much that he has a mental barrier and cannot just go with the flow and let it happen. If it happens once then the next time its awkward because you think about the last time. But for him it happens every time so he is probably putting a lot of pressure on himself which results in totally killing the moment.
I would try to reassure him but actually it's been 2 years so maybe he should go to the doctors to make sure nothing physical is causing this problem.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (22 June 2012):
 It could be a form of ED. I know he's a bit young, but from what I've read, erectile dysfunction can happen at any age, for a multitude of reasons. Maybe it's time for him to see a doctor about it.
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reader, Candycane1234  +, writes (22 June 2012):
 He might be a porn addict, my boyfriend has trouble getting hard from real activity :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2012): Your relationship it's not working, I think you should cut it off. It's a compatibility issue.
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reader, GRIFF TANNEN +, writes (22 June 2012):
 "My boyfriend cant get hard, even after 2 years"
Well it normally takes me about 2 minutes to get hard, so I agree 2 years is a bit long.
But seriously, my guess is that he's jerkin the ghirkin and slappin the salami a bit too much. It could be that he's doing it an awful lot without you knowing about it, when you're not home, when you're down stairs and so on. Too much masturbation can make it hard to get hard on and keep it hard. I'd try to find out what his masturbation habbits are.
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