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My boyfriend and I aren't texting as much. Should I be worried? What can I do?

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Question - (28 July 2015) 1 Answers - (Newest, 29 July 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *ennywren_7 writes:

Hi guys.

Me and my boyfriend used to text everyday and it would be a mix of him texting first and then me. However lately the texting seems to have reduced. Should I be worried and what should I do?

Any advice would be appreciated x

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (29 July 2015):

Has it ever occurred to you he is simply tired of it?

Texting used as a means to monitor "boyfriend-behavior" and to gauge a person's feelings for you is whacked. If he sees you frequently, and you have good one-on-one communication; perhaps the texting is becoming an annoyance and a chore.

Maybe he's too polite to say so. Anything and everything reaches a plateau, can become overkill, or finds a saturation-point. People can only take-in so much. If he has friends and family, his phone constantly fills with messages. Day in, and day out. He has a life beyond his phone and you!

Instead of assuming there is something wrong; just consider "how much" you like to text, and the topics or subject matter. Is there any substance, or reasoning behind a constant flow of messaging? Do you do it because you're bored, or it's just a habit? Is it silly, and always fishing for compliments or reassurance? The contents and subject-matter make all the difference. "How are you?" "What are you doing?" "Who are you with?" "I love you!" :)

Can you see how these repetitive messages may just become a little irritating. Save some loving and conversation for face-to-face interaction.

Is messaging your only way you know how to communicate with your man? Or is it a way to keep track of every moment of his day, and where he is? Making sure you are constantly on his mind to the point he will want to avoid you, and your messaging! It eventually happens.

What can you do? Stop texting so much, and enjoy spending time together. Leave him alone and let him miss you sometime. You don't have to be present in ever minute of his day. That's smothering and needy!

You think I'm being mean. There will be others will tell you more of what you'd probably want to hear, but you should see it from different view-points.

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