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writes:heya.Me and my boyfriend are on *a break* or *cooling things* for a while. I'm confused to what it all means... are we over?thank you lots xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): my fiancee told me she was taking a break, from me, until she finishes school for R.N. we have been together for 21 months and were planning to marry on feb. 12 2007. we both stated to each other, that were afraid, and did not through with it. now she tells me that i couldn't marry her because i spend to much time at my mothers house.(79yrs.)i'm the only relative within 400 miles.
what's the deal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): Depends whether you back together again after the break or not.
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reader, DAPARCH  +, writes (28 March 2007):
 chances are he is not pleased with you and what you are offering anymore. He has perhaps spoken about it time and time agin and has not reached a point of no return. However he is trying to spare your feelings if he is a ocnsiderate guy or one without enough guts. Most definately he may have someone else lined up to replace you.
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reader, stina  +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
I don't think anyone will be able to answer this except for your partner. Talk to him and see where things stand. It sounds like you two need to figure out if there are any guidelines (if there aren't any, then see if any should be made). Talk to him and see if two want to see other people, how often you think you should both communicate with one another, etc.
Having a break doesn't necessarily mean that you two are over. Since I don't know the details of your split, perhaps he really does just need to get things sorted out in his head. It's not unheard of for couples to temporarily split and get back together. Prepare yourself for the worst, this way if it happens you won't be taken by surprise - and if things turn out more positive it will probably feel even better.
But like I said - talk to your man before making any assumptions and getting too upset. He is the only one that will be able to give you the real answer to your question.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): Sorry to tell you, but this is not good. If he REALLY wanted to be with you he would not be "cooling things" or "taking a break."
As DreamMaster and the other guy who posted said, you should consider that its over, and it would be a good idea for YOU to take the initiative and TELL him it is finished.
It may hurt, but I do believe you will feel better for taking action rather than waiting around for him to either contact you or tell you he is no longer interested.....
You deserve a man who wants your company!
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reader, AngelEyes420 +, writes (28 March 2007):
In my experience(both sides of the coin), it means they want to be with someone else, and may allready have someone else in mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): What Dreammaster told you is probably 100% true. Your (ex)boyfriend is finding out if he can find someone better suitable for him. This happened to me and I waited for my ex girlfriend to come back after taking a 'break' but by waiting it probably hurt more when she found someone and seemed happy and I had not even begun the healing process.
Accept that this relationship has run its course and start to get over him.
Remember, what's for you in life won't pass you by.
All the best.
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reader, DreamMaster  +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hi,
What this generally means is that the guy wants out of the relationship,
But rather than making a clean break – he wants to keep you at arms length in case things don’t quite work out for him,
So what he is now doing is seeing if he can find a different girlfriend to be with,
If he doesn’t find one, then he is keeping his options open with you – ie, he might want to get back,
It’s a very small chance though,
But the whole thing is very unfair on you, because you don’t know whether he is going to get back with you or what the story is
My advice to you is for you to tell him it is not a ‘break’ or ‘cooling things’ – I believe you should tell him that you are ending the relationship for good and are not interested in waiting for him to decide when he wants to start using you again,
Best of luck
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