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30-35,
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writes:Let me start off thank you for taking your time to read this so I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now recently 3 years ago I got pregnant and now we have a daughter she's two we first started as a long distance relationship but now with a baby we decided to move in together unfortunately he doesn't have his own place he lives with his mom (we are 22,23) his a only child and a mommas boy. so I've moved in here with him and his mom it's going to be 3 years in April I moved a hour away from all family and friends. Living with his mom has not been the easiest she had lost her job when I was prego so when I moved in she was being a stay at home mom I didn't want to interrupt that since I'm moving in so she takes care of mostly everything cooks, cleans she always pleasing my boyfriend it's a bit annoying but I've learn to deal with it I usually just tak care of our daughter drive my bf and mom on errands they need to do etc. my boyfriend usually trys to avoid any problems to do with me and his mom I get it two women he loves but I'm starting to feel useless like I had a chance to work but his mom didnt want to take care of my daughter cause she was going to look for a job but that hasn't happen and she didnt even let me talk to my bf about it she was already saying that wasn't going to work out for her it's like everything has to get a approval from her before it goes thru that's annoying so my main question is I want to move back to my parents house to better myself I have my mom who can help me watch her and family that will help me and will support my descions but I'm afraid I will loose my boyfriend I still want to be with him I love him living with him has gotte nme to understand him more but I'm scared his mom will put her two cents in and convince him to leave me or tell him I'm actually taking our daughter away from him when really I want to buy my own things for me and my baby my bf doesn't really buy us stuff just basic or food. has anyone been thru this and worked out good ? by the way we had moves to a new apartment because the old apartment was going to get remodled so I told her I was thnking of moving back and she said I hope you don't think you are trying to seperate me from my grandaughter and I said no than she said you know if you move out you can't move bac in and my bf probably won't even care I left so just to say good bye to our relationship so I didn't move back to my parents house but I'm thinking again I'm tired of being a third wheel I feel like him and his mom are the couple and I'm just here.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 March 2015):
 I'd tell your BF that you love him mom and have been VERY grateful for having been given the chance to LIVE with her, but that you NEED to move back home because you feel you NEED to support of YOUR OWN mom.
OR... YOU and your BF find a way to get a place on your own and then MOVE out. If this is not possible in the foreseeable future (and your parents WANTS you back home) then go back home, find a job, pay your parents some rent/food money and SAVE up for moving OUT with your BF.
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