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My bloke promised he wouldn't mess me about, but now he won't answer my texts or calls...

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Question - (30 March 2005) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 March 2005)
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Hiya, please help me. I've become friendly with a bloke named Hayd. We started flirting a lot and eventually he tried to kiss me but I refused. A couple of days after, I saw him again and realised I actually did fancy him a lot, so I gave in. He texted me the next day just saying hello and that night we spent a bit more time together.

He said he liked me and would never mess me about but now I'm starting to believe differently as I think he has. I tried calling him the next day but he wouldn't answer his calls and hung up all the time.

I got a bit paranoid and started carrying on calling him. My mate was also trying to call her fella and he was being the same. That night my mate actually got through to her fella and he said he didn't want to be called every minute and my fella texted me asking if I was OK and that, which was quite weird.

The next day he ignored my calls, and when he answered he would either hang up or give it to his mate to talk to me, then he would make an excuse for me to go get off the phone. It is now Wednesday and the last time we were together was Thursday.

I am so confused by all of this and my mate said he hasn't a clue what's going on, although I think he does.

I'm beginning to feel sorry for his ex who is constantly calling him and texting him, asking him to pick the phone up and text him back.

Please help me because this is really weird as I really like this bloke.

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A reader, lil thumper +, writes (31 March 2005):

OK, that happened to me before but me and the guy were talking about how long we would be together and all that stuff and I really liked him, too.

One day he just stopped calling me and answering my calls. I was so depressed I didn't know what to do. That never happened to me. So I finally realised that there are so many different opportunities out there and that one guy shouldn't ruin anything for me.

Just be strong and don't let just one person get you down. "There are more fishes in the sea".

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A reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (30 March 2005):

Rebecca Batchelor agony auntI think the answer here is for you to be very strong. Don't ring him, don't text him. Do absolutely nothing. Do anything, everything else to distract yourself from thoughts of him and attempt to put him to the very back of your mind. He is playing games with you. You don't have to play them back just don't bother with him.

Okay, so if he doesn't bother to get back in touch then he obviously is unreliable, probably pretty selfish, perhaps a user and not worth his salt. Wouldn't you prefer to be treated with more respect, wouldn't you like someone to make you feel special?

You like this guy a lot but he thinks he has you where he wants you, i.e; you chasing him. Well, stop running and sit back. If he wants to get to know you better, he will be in touch. If he doesn't get in touch, you haven't lost very much. At least you are at the very early stages, better to find out about him now...

Do nothing when it comes to him. Get out and enjoy yourself. Talk with your friends, don't let him continually invade your thoughts. Move on and find someone who really cares and is not frightened to show it.

Good luck.

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