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My bi girlfriend wants to have a threesome and I'm not cool about it

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Question - (8 February 2016) 2 Answers - (Newest, 10 February 2016)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ok so my girlfriend who's bi kissed her friend who's also bi whilst the friend was pretty drunk, she then told me about it afterwards and I told her that I wasn't mad (she's only 18 and has never actually experimented) but I didn't want her to do it again whilst she was dating me.

However like a week later she saw her friend in a club and they made out again which she again apologised for. She said she was drunk and obviously we fought.

Now my main problem is that now she wants to have a threesome with this other girl (who I admit is hot but I'm not attracted to and is a big step given I only recently took her virginity) and it makes me think that she has feelings for the girl and therefore makes her cheating a lot worse.

I've asked her straight up whether or not she likes the girl and she's very defensive and says she's just experimenting but she's attracted to her.

Now I don't know whether or not I should break up with her and just let her go or not.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (10 February 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntYeah it sounds like she has feelings for this girl. You asked her not to do it again, but she did. Call in what you like she still cheated on you, she apologized but then said she wants a threesome. She is not ready for a relationship with you. It may be hard but I think you need to be honest with her, and tell her you don't want to share her that it is either you or this other girl. Its not fair on you to be part of her experimenting. As your feelings probably will get hurt. If you agree to this threesome I think you will regret it, as my suspicion is she wants it as a threesome so she can have sex with this other girl without having the label of cheating.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2016):

Denizen agony auntIt sounds as if you aren't comfortable sharing your girlfriend. While it might seem like you are being asked to play the lead in a porn movie the reality will change not only your relationship with your girlfriend, but also how you think about yourself.

Furthermore I don't think saying you are drunk is a decent excuse for her behaviour. You need to question what you want out of a relationship. If you want it to be purely heterosexual then you may have to be just good friends with your current partner and find someone who is just for you.

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