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My bf's ex is obsessed with ruining our relationship!!

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Question - (2 January 2007) 7 Answers - (Newest, 22 November 2007)
A female United Kingdom, *tarisrocks writes:

ok my bf's ex is sending me mental she is still madly in love with my bf so is trying to break me and him up. here sum stuff she been doing

looking at my myspace and texting him about any chnages i have done ( this one back fired when she told him about me putting i really like him and he likes me back coz he like me saying that)

phoning him when he's round mine saying that she needs him to come round as she needs him there.

or saying im cheating on him

trying to get people to hate me at school

i also found out she paid my bro £60 to attack my bf so he will dump me

my bf is getting annoyed at her he hangs up the phone on her and deletes her texts without answering them he even called her a stupid whore that he hates but she still trying to get back with him

how can we stop her?

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A female reader, atarisrocks United Kingdom +, writes (22 November 2007):

atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the question

atarisrocks agony auntthis is no longer a problem found out a 10 months ago he was sleeping with her so thats why he wouldnt tell he to get lost

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007):

my bf's ex calls him at least once a month. She found me (through him) on Myspace and sends me messages.

At first we argued about it alot. Now we simply ignore her. She keeps coming back. He has had his phone # for years and won't change it. And really he shouldn't have to.

When she first started messaging me, I did respond and I was angry. But that was her mission - to cause a rut in our relationship. By ignoring her, she doesn't win.

I'd like to think that she will go away, but she's been his ex for 9 years and hasn't stopped.

She's not worth our time. We laugh at how desperate she is.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2007):

why cant ur bf change his number? and not to be rude your bro is very stupid...he;d rathe rhave money than his own sisters happiness? ignore her thats all u can do, dont give her the satisfaction of feeling how u are right now, cos ur letting her win!

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A female reader, atarisrocks United Kingdom +, writes (3 January 2007):

atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the question

atarisrocks agony auntwe have been ignoring her for 2 months now i wont even give her eye contact

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007):

You are obviously very young or have severe maturity problems.

If your boyfriend was dedicated to you, he'd stop this ex from being able to hassle you, him and your family.

Her involvement is scaring you, isn't it? You're actually scared that she's going to ruin your relationship!

Ex's stay in the past and if you find she is hassling you now then there are reasons for it. Either YOU are allowing her to upset you, or your boyfriend is not being firm and strong and telling her to, well, f*** off and to move on. If I found out my ex even so much as said anything to my girlfriend I would, to say the least, make sure she never makes the same mistake again.

As for your brother getting paid £60, well. I wonder what kind of family you live with and I can only offer you my thoughts and prays that you'll soon grow up and move on to have your own life away from these freaks.

Failing that, kill her. But make sure you are careful with regards to forensic evidence. Burn the body, her house and destroy the clothes you were wearing.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do :)

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A female reader, Pretty and proud United Kingdom +, writes (3 January 2007):

Pretty and proud agony auntignore her, she will go away eventually. the more you react to it the more she's happy and thinks shes getting closer to breaking you two up.

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A male reader, ogga +, writes (3 January 2007):

get him to reply to her texts.

Telling her exactly what you both think of her.

Get the point across.

Then hae a go at your brother for what he did. He shouldnt do that to you for any amount of money.

If your bf objects to telling her, do not think its because he likes her, hes just sweet-centered and doesnt want to hurt somebody like that. So understand that if its what happens. But you should tell her, or he should tell her. then block her on myspace and if it comes to it get him to write just how much he loves you into his own myspace. and you do exactly the same so she realises shes fighting a lost cause

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