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writes: My boyfriend admitted to me having a crush on one of his coworkers about a month ago. I forgave him, but ever since then I keep seeing her where ever I go, the smallest things that remind me of her, get me so upset, that we almost broke up over it. Now a month and a half later... my boyfriend admitted that he never did have an actual crush on her, and that he just said it to see how I would react. I can't believe he would lie like that to me, and I dont know where to go from here. Please help.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (7 August 2006):
 Fist of all I'd like to give you all my love and support, I know how you feel one option is to think he loves you so much that he invnted this awful lie, another that he sort of blackmailed or forced your feelings, anyway he has hurt you very much and you deserve time to hink what to do, revnege or forgive, break up or stay? I don't know but whatever you do will be all right, I think you need to work out if you can forgive him or not but make him see you are not a little girl who can be mistreaded without consequences, lots of love for you dear
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reader, Suorpio  +, writes (7 August 2006):
 People who toy with your emotions aren't keepers. He was either jerking you around from the beginning by telling you he had a non-existant crush, or he's trying to bail himself out now after the fact. In either case, he's lied to you at some point; either out of sadism or cowardice. It doesn't really matter which one, they're both offenses that merit your dumping him.
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reader, DrPsych  + ♥, writes (7 August 2006):
 Maybe he told you a 'lie' because he is an insecure game-playing little boy who thinks little of your feelings...maybe it took him over a month to put together a credible excuse to bring closure to the fact that he did fancy someone else and regrets telling you. It would seem odd that he lied, then confesses afterwards...perhaps you will never know the real truth but proceed with caution - if he messes with your head over this, what else will he do???
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