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writes: My boyfriend is in the army, i miss him loads, dont know what to do.I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two months and he is in the army, i barely see him, only every other weekend, he told me he loves me already i'm not sure to believe this as its only been two months, i like him very much and i hope to have a future with him, but do army relationships work? Is it true what they say about men in the army who cheat? He goes to Iraq for 6 months soon and i'm dreading it, can anyone help? I'm so confused. Reply to this Question |
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reader, lovemeloz151  +, writes (10 June 2008):
My Boyfriend of 6 months is in the army. And to be honest is it hard. However Amry relasionships do work but take more time.
Just think he's thinking of you to come home to, you the reason he wants to come back and you can be there for him. I know your lonely, im lonely too so meny people are in the same situation and it works. If you truely love him then he'll be worth the wait and worry.
feel free to contact me for a chat =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and 3 months....At 9 months when he found out he was being deployed, he cheated on me with a girl that he knew for a long time. Now he's in afghanistan and found out that he called her. Even though they weren't together physically do i count that as something serious and break up with him? or do i go about my business and keep things good between him? He did come out with the truth the other day....but I dont know what to do....someone help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): I know how you feel. My boyfriend goes off to Iraq next month, and he'll be gone for 15 months. There's always that fear of the other one cheating, but if your relationship is strong, you both can handle anything, and if you both love each other, then there shouldn't be any second guessing. Trust is what a relationship sits on, and I'm not worried, because I know he wouldn't do that. You just have to have faith--believing without seeing. If you trust him, and love him, and he trusts and loves you, then you'll both be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): I have just very recently split up with my army boyfriend after I found out he cheated on me, we were together for three years and I thought we were very strong and meant to be together. For most of our relationship it was fantastic and him been in the army was never a huge problem as we trusted each other one hundred percent so been apart for huge amounts of time was ok, however he came back from Iraq a couple of months ago and since then everything between us seemed to break down. He struggled to cope with adjusting and although I can never forgive himfor cheating I know he's got alot of issues from his time in iraq that he hasnt addressed and I feel that this played a huge part in our relationship breakdown which consequently lead him to cheat. Been with someone who is in the army is alot harder than a civvy relationship but as long as you are prepared to work at it and if you trust your guy you have no reason to be worried about him cheating, even though its happened to me I know that it doesnt happen with every army relationship and there are loads of decent honest men out there who will treat their girlfriends right x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): That's kinda crazy but i recently started dating a kid who joined the army more than a year ago. and i've been best friends with him since i was 15 and we got really close when he came back to visit right before he had to go to korea. we didn't date but i know he was with other people and he swore he wasn't. i ended up doing something stupid just from fear of not knowing what was going on. and we stopped talking for half a year and then when he came back again we reconnected and started dating but now he's in colorado. it's really hard because he parties a lot but i know deep down that he's sincere i just don't know if i can trust him just because what happened a year ago. it's been 2 months and already my wondering is causing us to fight and i'm thinking about ending it becaus ei don't feel like he truly wants to be together although he's told me he loves me and that he wants to marry me. i feel like he's not sure anymore. i really don't know what to do. he goes to iraq in august . there's just so much to everything it's stressing me out. itd be nice to get a perspective on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): i felt exactly like u. my bf goes away for 6 months in april and im dreading it. i no its guna be hard for me and him. but we both love each other and you cant help who u fall for...can u!? as they say absence makes the heart grow fonder....xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): I've been married for four years to my soldier and I've never had to worry about that. If you're second guessing anything - as far as marriage in general goes, with or without the military - you should maybe wait a little longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Army relationships work they are just harder than most and it takes a special person to be able to deal with dating someone in the Army. I have a boyfriend in the Army and he has been in Iraq for almost 8 months now and hopefully comes home in Aug. It is hard but I love him and it is worth the wait for me. We have something to look forward to and unlike other couples who are able to see each other all the time, when we see each other we really appreciate it for everything its worth. It is very hard, I'm not going to lie, but if you truly love him, you can make it work, and the cheating thing is not true. Well it is for some of the soliders, but the respectable ones are not like that at all. Stick with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): I know just how you feel. my bf is in the army to and right now he is away at boot camp. it is so hard but if you can get through this you can do anything as a couple. When he comes back we get married so good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): Well i have been with my husband for 7 years now and we have a wee girl. I have never met such a loving amazing person. Yes they do go away allot and it hurts you. But they have to deal with leaving you and their child and working really hard and being told what to do 24\7. We have been blissfully happy and to be honest where i live in Germany it is mainly the army wives that cheat. And when i met my husband i had never met such a gentleman opening doors and just fun loving and we had the best time in London carefree. But its hard when you move abroad and they are away allot because you miss your life and you can find yourself getting very lonely and depressed so you just have to pick yourself up and always have something planned something to look forward to. They actually need you allot more than you need them. Its deff not easy but i have had the best time of my life and met some amazing people. Not all soldiers are cheats i know lots and lots and i have only ever known one married man to do it. Just always be there with the phone sex and the dirty texts letters and e-mails and i am always waiting at home when he gets back from somewhere with sexy underwear and a whole night of passion ahead. Trust me you get the best sex ever because you miss them so much. For me it justs gets better and better and it keeps the relationship alive you just have to go with it and stop worrying. If he is for you then you would know. and as for splitting up when he goes away thats just ludicrous its when he needs you to be there for him the most not stuck in the desert panicking about who you are sleeping with, i think hes going through enough. My husband phones me constantly and we are very much in love so go for it girl if you find a squaddie that truly loves you its the best love in the world so just embrace it xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): i've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and i hate him being in the army. he comes home every weekend at the mo but off to germany next month and i will only see him 2x a month. he told me he loved me after a month and he wants to get engaged and have baby's now, we are both only 20. i think men who r in the army are scared of diyin alone un married and childless, so i do think they are for real but i also know they are messed up in the head (they have to be to be in the army and want to kill ppl)and they dont know what real love is, just sex mainly, but i do love my other er half and im willing to sit bk and ride the army out with him. i suggest u do the same and if it dont work oh well it's there loss, we are the strong ones going out with ppl who could die and we are they ones who sit at home wainting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): My boyfriend is in the army too, we've been dating for nearly 2 years and i still get scared when i think about him cheating or anything. mine leaves for iraq for 2 6 month periods but comes home in between for a week or two. I never got to see mine during basic or A.I.T or anything. It's hard but it will get better and easier..
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): hey!
my boyfriend is in the army we have been together 8 months, we met when he was doin basic training and officialy started dating when he started his officer training so knew what i was getting myself into..it is hard because it ment he didnt call as much especially if out on exercise for a week and if he did it would be for 20 mins an he would be tired and grumpy and it is very hard to stay positive sometimes, but you do to keep them going! I believe army relationships can work if you really love the person... its hard work and emotionaly exhausting sometimes! i recently had a "break" from my boyfriend because it all got too much for me.. but only for 3 weeks because i realised how much i loved him and would rather see him occationaly than never at all! it helps to talk to people in the same boat so you dont feel your going through it alone! and as for amy guys cheating... to be honest they dont have the time or are too tired to cheat! when they arn't working they tend to be visiting girlfriends and family!! good luck hun! xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): hey!
my boyfriend is in the army we have been together 8 months, we met when he was doin basic training and officialy started dating when he started his officer training so knew what i was getting myself into..it is hard because it ment he didnt call as much especially if out on exercise for a week and if he did it would be for 20 mins an he would be tired and grumpy and it is very hard to stay positive sometimes, but you do to keep them going! I believe army relationships can work if you really love the person... its hard work and emotionaly exhausting sometimes! i recently had a "break" from my boyfriend because it all got too much for me.. but only for 3 weeks because i realised how much i loved him and would rather see him occationaly than never at all! it helps to talk to people in the same boat so you dont feel your going through it alone! and as for amy guys cheating... to be honest they dont have the time or are too tired to cheat! when they arn't working they tend to be visiting girlfriends and family!! good luck hun! xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): I also have a boyfriend who is in the army. I know it is very difficult and im not going to lie to you its hard as hell. If you are going to stay with him you need to prepare yourself to get hurt. He wont have time for you, he wont be able to call or write and you are going to miss him. It is all dependent upon you. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year. We have been off and on and even during one of our "break" periods i was with somone else. I told him and it hurt him alot. It can work if you want it to. Just keep in mind two things...
1. He is not your husband- if your not ready to do this then fine. you dont owe him your life
2. every second of the day he is thinking about you, you give him strength to go on
3. I am 100% sure that he loves u if he says he does
good luck i hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Hey there. The response from the female squaddie was valid - they don't cheat when they're away in Iraq etc. it's when they're home that you have to worry. I am a model, a lovely person and I truly value everyone in my life. I met my soldier nearly 2 years before we got together (and we didn't start at that point for this reason!) and six months down the line he did the slinking around behind my back thing. He blamed being scared of losing me and me not being here when he got back and I just thought well NOW you have reason to worry! The best of it was it was all exes who were fellow squaddie brats (which of course, led to I can't not speak to her, her dad's in my platoon) etc. etc. being in the Army means someone either couldn't find another job, or they enjoy the glory that accompanies the act of killing, neither of which are good qualities in a person. Bad people cheat, ad I am afraid most Army boys just seem to be bad people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): I am a female and i am in the Forces....
we do not have the time to 'cheat'or get 'up to no good' when we are posted in such places such as Iraq or afghanistan.
We sleep in large shelters/tents with maybe 80 or more other people! there would be no where to have a emotional or physical experience with anyone because you have more than 80 eyes and ears all around you! everyone knows everyones business, who's married, dating or single. You cannot hide the fact that you are being unfaithful with another forces colleague because there's no where to do it- that breaks military rules put in place that we have to adhere to; not to date other colleagues or people higher up the rank scale.
yes it happens, but it's frowned upon and the repercussions can be very detrimental to our careers. Infact, just before i joined up, i got invovled with someone who i love very much- and i was actually worried about him going off and straying! i always feel guilty now that i felt like that and doubted him- he was going through such a traumatic time with cancer too.
And how ironic! most people that i work with are so paranoid that other half back home is doing the dirty!!! a partner being at home gives them a HUGE opportunity to go off with someone they met in a club, gym, wherever, there's also the avantage of having someone in your bed without your serving partner ever finding out, so it would be a lot easier and convienient for the party left at home to be unfaithful.
Believe me when i say there are no clubs, pubs, restuarants for romantic dinners or florists in the middle of the desert!
the most romantic thing we have is the thought of coming home!
we do a hard, difficult, demanding role that is mentally physically and emotionally draining...the best thing you could do for your partners is to trust them implicitly and i wholly admire any person who has the strength to get involved in a relationship with a service person.
My partners a firefighter in the civvy world and i, a firefighter in the military- so my strength lies in believeing we're going to be alright because if he says he loves me, thats its because he does, he wouldn't say it otherwise; even though he has a pick all of those women swooning over his uniform!!!
He believes and thinks the the same in me.
do you have any idea how much stick firefighters get for supposedly being notoriusly unfaithful?
The public services opens our eyes to the bigger picture, we see awful things and have to live them, whether for an hour, or a 6 month tour of Iraqistan. We value life more than others and it's many wonderful things because we see so often what can be lost, an awful lot more so than most of those who are living in a 'bubble of ignorance'- if we are lucky enough to have someone who wants to be involved in our lives- we do infact, know which side our bread is buttered on!
If you really feel love in your relationship work on the trust and understanding,
be strong, your relationship with this guy gives him the strength to get through the awful situations we live and work in prely for the fact because he's happy in the knowledge he's loved by you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): OK, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We were together for a year beofre he joined though I had known he was joining from the moment we met (he had moved to Britain specifically to join the Britsh Army). I love him very much but I must say, if I knew then what I know now I would never have started the relationship. Unfortunately by the time I realised what I was getting myself into it was too late, we had been together a year and I was head over heels. Having a relationship with a soldier is very difficult. Beyond the cheating issue (I trust my partner and doubt that he would do it but the point is, any man with any occupation might cheat), the army OWNS him. He will never be truly yours while he is serving. Moreover, they own you too. Your holidays will be planned around the army, they will decide whether you have your partner with you, they will decide where you will live. I am an intelligent self-sufficient woman and on numerous occasions the army has reduced me to a neurotic, quivering mess with their manipulation and utter disregard for my partners life outside of the army (and me in turn). I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. The only thing that keeps me going is that as soon as my partners service is up (2 years down, 2 to go) he will be leaving the army, a decision he made of his own accord and is very happy about. Like I said, had I have been able to see the future when we met, I wouldn't have begun what has been a tumultuous and difficult relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): wow im surprised at the amount of replies on this. Theres this guy i like and we are about to get together as we both like eachother alot. However he told me yesterday he's joining the army and has to go to some interview in a few weeks. Im not too happy about it, but theres nothing i can do.
i think if you both really like eachother it can work. There will be more strain on ur relationship that the average person but it may help you to grow stronger. Of course you'll miss him ur just gonna have to try keep yourself busy i guess
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): hi
yer they do work i am only 17 and i have been with much bf for 4 mouths and i really really miss him when he go's but i no he thinks in the same way as i do. and he dose block me out when he is there as that is want they are trained to do so don't worry about if he said he loves you the he means it. but army guys like to get married young as i am now and i am really happy. but the thing is do you trusted if you do then you will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): Hi, i also have a bf in the army, he is based in germany at the moment and like you we only see eachother every other weekend. We also have only been together a few months, but we both feel the same way about eachother and with that in mind i do think that the relationship does work. We talk everyday on the phone and on the net, we know we can truat eachother. They have the same problem we do with trust.they think the same, "will she being doing anything at home while i'm here".
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): All I can say is however hard it is while he's away, there are no words to describe how amazing it is when he walks through that door again. It makes up for everything, it's the best thing in the world. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and although when he's away every day is hard and long, when he's home none of it matters any more. Good luck let us know how it goes! xx
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reader, 60's VINTAGE GAL  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 ive recently become an Army girlfriend and let me tell you it isnt easy...ive been thru lots in my life and this has got to be one of the most challenging...hes been deployed since june and its been tough on me. I just pray to god to keep him safe and i leave him in his hands. Ive been doing a lot of mental, emotional, and physical prepartion when he does come home..Im trying to be that solid rock for him. there are some days its really hard ya know, and i just try to keep myself busy at work and talking to my clients really help me...I love him with all my heart so im not going anywhere...:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): My boyfriend is in the Army, he is carrer military.We've been together for 3 years and the majority of ithe's been deployed. Yes it's difficult a times, but it can work and it will work if you stay strong and remain patient.There are many different support groups online, cinchouseis a great online community that will help you to learn there you'll also be able to met others who are dealing with the same things. Also a good book to read is Married To The Military... It's the survival guide for military spouses, girlfriends and families.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2007): so...heres the deal. my financee is overseas right now. and let me tell ya...im pretty much engaged to not only john, but the entier united states army. when you date someone in the military, whether or not you like it, the military becomes a huge part of your life as well. what i have found, is when in a serious relationship with someone in the military you need to have a TON of independence. you need to be able to stand on your own two feet, and you need to understand that youre not going to know everything. youre not going to understand everything. but all you can do is trust that you will in good time. when its time for you to understand, he will tell you. i dont get a lot of information, but i know he loves me, and i know i love him. what more do you need? while hes deployed you will cry...alot. and you will miss him...even more than you cry. yes there is sometimes doubt, because long periods of no information, or phone calls, or even letters will really start to mess with your head. but. know that he is thinking about you, and if he had it his way.....hed be right beside you in a heartbeat. also, one last thing. deployments will change people. men go over there and they do alot of stuff they dont want to do, and deal with a lot of heavy emotional stuff. you have to be prepared for days when he calls, and he just wants to hear you say "i love you" and then go to bed. you have to hear him cry on the phone, want to come home, be angry at the world....its not all bad, but there are some pretty horrid days. stay strong, stay busy, and youll be fine. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Hi I like the rest of you have a fella in the Army and he is away on 'operations' a lot this year so far i have seen him six days in total and not all at the one time. It is very very hard and very lonely. We keep in touch via email, web cam, letters and text and that keeps us both very close. i love him very much and always have a smile and a good story for him but i will not pretend for one minute i trust him one hundered percent or dont sit stressing out about stuff and not share with him cause after all his day has got to have been worse than mine!Thats what i find the hardest (makes me sound selfish)but i am not.I have good friends and family and like another girl commented dont stop living your life. But you have to be prepared for long spells with no communication and not really understanding their life. I would only say like any relationship army or not it will work if thats what you both really want and you both commit to each another.Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Ive been waiting for my boyfriend to get out of the army for almost 4 years. Hes in Iraq now and let me tell u no part of what u are about to go through is easy. Decide now if u think u can wait or not. Dont wait til he;s over there it will just be that much worse for him. It can be done you can make it but be prepared to write allot of letters and send allot of care packages and be really lonely and depressed. Just be sure to get out allot. Keep busy do your own thing. Dont stop living life jus cuz hes not there to live it with you. Thats probably the biggest leason Ive learned so far.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): to reply to the woman that said she was a squaddie and not to trust the men out there..thats stupid..just because you have expreineced it and u no someone who does things like that doesnt mean that all the lads are the same..of course some of the squaddie lads cheat..its full of horny men who think down below but at the same time there are lots who dont and if your boyfriend loves you and you give him everything he needs then he wont go looking else where will he.Dont forget there are lots of army wifes and girlfriends who cheat too its not just the men. i have been with my boyfriend who is in the army for a few years and i know for a fact he hasnt or he wouldnt cheat on me because i give him everything he needs and we love eachother to bits, i say to all the people who worry about it its tough but dont think about it all the time just deal with it when the times comes or it will wreck your realtionship anyway!! good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): hi..i have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years and he is in the army..he is deployed in iraq at the moment..it is a very hard time so prepare yourself for it, you have to be strong for them no matter how hard it is, i love my boyfriend and worry everyday and every night.. make sure you send him lots of things to keep him happy and smiling over there..it may seem like a long time to be away from them being with an army lad can be very hard at times but if u really love him then im sure u will be ok. all the best!! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): i am dating a guy in the army and i have been dating him for a littl eover a month...he is getting deployed for iraq in August and i am very scared as much as most ladies would be.......he has also told me that he loves me and he is very happy with me....i can trust that but sometimes i think it over......i am trying to be as strong as i can with him and it is very hard to stay that strong but for 3 years i will learn how to be strong enough for him........this may be the hardest thing for females to do who are dating or married to someone committed to the army but in the end they are the best to fall in love with
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reader, Newtzy +, writes (28 April 2007):
 Ive just got engaged to someone whos in the army, He went to Iraq and it was very hard, Army relationships can work but you have to be very strong, very very strong, something i am finding i may be not.
What they say about army boys cheating applys to some, but not to all,you know your boyfriend and if he says he loves you i would trust that, and trust he will be faithful to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): people can cheat when they arnt in the army too, its up to him. if hes going to cheat on you he would do it in a normal realtionship also, but always remember that you are not waiting for him to come back, you are in a relationship, im saying that if you are sitting around waiting for him to come back, not living your life then you are going to be unhappy then the relationship is doomed because you will associate him with not doing the things that you would have been doing had he been here. also, youve been dating for two months and its really really easy to make any relationship last two months, so dont assume your going to marry him just because you feel you have to make the choice right now because hes leaving.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): i used to be a squaddie. and men are horrid cheats in the army. ive had married men try it on with me in canada. they regularly visit brothels in germany/canada etc. they think different post code then its ok. i know one married female squaddie who had an afair with a married man in iraq. another got pregnant to one out there, but soon found out he was a cheat (about 5 times so far). and she is still with him!!!!! prob cos they have a child. dont trust him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): hey,
I cancompletely relate to you. I have been with my bf for 6 months now, and everyone's going to chew ths apart but I know hes the one. We have even talked about marriage and kids and set a date. He's leaving me july 2 to attend West Point. WHere i can only talk to him via letters for seven weeks. It's hard I know, but army boys are special in their own way. if you truely love him you will trust him and stand by his side. What he needs right now ur love form afar and support! It's hard turst me have four years of missing him and 8 years of worring about them taking him away to war, it;s long road but it's usually worth it.
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reader, kj0483  +, writes (9 February 2007):
i believe they do. my uncle met his wife in the army, and she is now out of it, but he still is in. they have been together for about 20 years and he is always being deployed to different countries for peace keeping. always stay positive and keep in contact as much as possible. it will be hard but distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): Hi, i am dating a lad at Tidworth. I have been with him for nearly four months, he is of to iraq soon. He's not had many relationships and tells me he's really into me, im great, best thing ever blar blar. I dont think he would cheat on me but who knows what they get up to when their there and your not. At the end of the day i put it out of my thought, its bloody hard, and i hate the thought but what you dont know cant hurt. If he tells you he loves you believe it - they lead a totally different life to us but at the end of the day....if he's not into why would he come back at all. Think about it, its got to be so hard for them. Im sure his feelings for you are genuine, if they wen and e just wanted sex then he could get that anywhere. Its tough. im sat here in tears writing this as my bloke has told me he cant make it back after all and wants me to go there but im not going to as much as i want too. im still praying he'll turn up at my door (even tho i know theres no chance) Stic with it girl and when he goes to Iraq make sure you write to him lots, that will mean sooo much to him. Life out there.......a letter a week, every two even a month will keep him going and show your keen! 6 months will be long for us, but out there doing what there doing it will be a lifetime! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): sorry to be insenstive, but from experience most squaddies cheat, whether nice or not. Its "normal" to them, there may be some good ones, but they are hard to find, they are good at lying.
Hopefully u have met a good one, but wouldnt hold your breath.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): Hi,
My boyfriend is in the army too, we've been together 1'5years, he's away now for 1'5years but we love each other and we are making it work. So the only thing I can say that it does not matter if it's army or regular relationships it's still hard work. So if you feel he is good guy go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): Hey..im 16 and me & boyfriend have been together for a year, 2weeks ago he left for army training, hes 16 too. Im going to see him in 2 weeks, and hes coming home for a weekend in 4, i miss him so much but i love him, so i can stay strong & wait for him, if your boyfriend means anything to you, you should wait & see what happends when he returns..good luck x
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reader, IndnOtlaw +, writes (29 August 2006):
Like your boyfriend I am also in the Army. The biggest thing to remember is that the Army is but a small sampling of the general population it is sworn to protect. We have the same liars, stealers and yes even killers. But also like the general population we are not all good or all bad. So yes a relationship in the military can work, just like it does in the civilian world. But it can mean a little extra work especially in this day and age with so many deployments. I would say that you need to take some more time and see what happens. Don't rush into anything simply because he is going to Iraq. If you really like him, wait for him and stay in contact. When he comes back see what the next step is.
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reader, dustybutt +, writes (29 August 2006):
oh sweetie, sorry to hear about your situation. only two months huh. well, i'm a military spouse. he's been in for 12 years and we've been married for 10. even a strong relationship struggles under such circumstances. hmmm, all i can say is if you love him stick it out. is he worth the wait? have to tell you, men in his situation have many temptations...even when deployed. if he's willing to make it work and you love him, make it work! phone calls and e-mails!!! they still love getting hand written letters with perfume on them! if you sent him off thinking you two are meant to be and a few months down the road you don't want that life style... make sure he's strong enough to handle the news, long distance style. you may be the only thing keeping him grounded. other wise good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): You have been with him for 2 months; I thought this might be a joke.....are you for real? I am in the army myself, he is using you luv.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2006): My bf is getting ready to join the army. He had three places to pick, CO. Springs-about three hrs from me, Hawaii and North Carolina. He goes to basic training in GA-what if he gets put in Hawaii and I never see him, plus he might go to Iraq. He says he wants it to work out and come back ad marry me. What if he meets someone better? T |
