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writes: I've been seeing my boyfriend for just over 9 months now. Latly though he's been a bit irritable, and its really hurting us. He'll get annoyed at me, and in turn I get really upset. We've been getting better at this, however last night while talking on the phone, something sudden just irritated him. When I asked he said to drop it, and that it had nothing to do with our relationship. I try to come up with another topic and his responses were just so mean, he brought up our past "almost break-up" and said we werent going to last and his doubts about us. I've given him everything I have, everything...I'm so afraid of losing him. I'm just so concerned about what's bothering him. Arent boyfriends and girlfriends susposed to tell eachother whats on their mind? It seems like I'm losing him more and more everyday, any advice on what to do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, NightAngel +, writes (2 June 2006):
NightAngel is verified as being by the original poster of the question It's ok now, we've sorted everything out. =)
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (31 May 2006):
 Is there something that is maybe causing him some stress ? Maybe a work or a study issue ? Maybe even a family one... Until you know whats up its hard to know how to be around him. Its not fair that hes just snappy and crouchy at you, without you knowing why. I know you have probably tried, but I would suggest sitting down and telling him exactly how you feel. You cant carry on feeling miserable about it and not knowing where you are headed. Let him know that you understand he has some issues and you would like to help, but appreciate his privacy too. But let him know thats its affecting you and that you would like to help to resolve it, let him know that you care and you understand, but that you hurting. If you do actually get the chance to let him know how you feel and nothing changes then you may have to strongly think about moving on. I know its not what you want, but at the same time you cant stay if your that unhappy.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2006): I would say dump him, ditch him. If your not good enough for him no girl is. If he wants to be irritable and mean to you, than he can't expect to get a girlfriend can he? If you leave him he'll probably come to realise that it was his attitude that drove you apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2006): It's a tough situation. I can understand how you feel. What I say is forget about his problem and give him space. Let him tell you if he wants to tell. He must be the type who keeps secrets. But why should you worry you will lose him? It could be your inner fear. Take it lightly dear. One always gets what one deserves. Right? Just dont act too possessive. Guys usually dont like that. You sound to be a caring person. Dont let anyone spoil your happiness. Ok? Be cheerful and enjoy your life. All the best :)
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